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#392 🔸 Why some people cannot lose an argument and what that costs them in relationships

7 Aug 2026 3 minute read 2 comments luciman $0.04

  Stopping self-abandonment, which I wrote about last time, requires recognising your needs and expressing them. But there is a trap at the other end of the spectrum, equally common and equally costly: the need to never be the one who yields, to neve...

#391 🔸 Why you always give way and how to stop without feeling selfish

6 Aug 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.01

  Grief after self-illusions, which I wrote about last time, leaves something valuable in its wake: a clearer sight. And one of the clearest and most painful things this clarity produces is recognising how much energy you have invested in being who y...

#390 🔸 What happens inside you when you discover you are not who you thought you were

5 Aug 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.06

  The traps of the illuminated ego, which I wrote about last time, show us that the hardest thing to abandon is not a relationship or a place, but an image of ourselves. And that is precisely today's subject: what you do when an illusion about yourse...

#389 🔸 Why people who believe they are healed are sometimes the most difficult to be in a relationship with

5 Aug 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.06

  Becoming the shelter of your own fears, which I wrote about last time, is a continuous process, not a destination. And precisely this nuance, that healing and personal growth are journeys, not arrival points, is what makes a certain type of person...

#388 🔸 Why you run from your own fears instead of becoming their shelter

4 Aug 2026 3 minute read 4 comments luciman $0.02

  Authenticity in private details, which I wrote about last time, shows us that the relationship with oneself is built in small and apparently insignificant moments. But there is a dimension of the relationship with oneself that is more difficult tha...

#387 🔸 Who you truly are shows in the choices you make when nobody is watching

3 Aug 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.05

  Recovering pieces of yourself from past relationships, which I wrote about last time, brings us back to the fundamental question of who we are in the absence of external influences. And there is a place where this question receives a concrete and o...

#386 🔸 why you feel incomplete after some relationships and how to recover what you left there

3 Aug 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.10

  Nocturnal dialogues with the self, which I wrote about last time, sometimes bring to the surface what is easier to avoid during the day: thoughts about past relationships, about people who are no longer in our lives, about what remained unresolved...

#385 🔸 Why nighttime thoughts are the most honest and what to do with what you hear there

2 Aug 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.03

  Solitude as sanctuary, which I wrote about last time, has a privileged moment in which it becomes inevitable for almost anyone: the night. When the light goes out, when the noise of the day falls silent, and when no distraction remains to function,...

#384 🔸 Why some people find themselves in solitude and others lose themselves in it

1 Aug 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.06

Gentleness towards oneself on days of failure, which I wrote about last time, requires being able to stay with yourself without fleeing. And this is perhaps one of the most difficult forms of presence: remaining in your own interior without filling t...

#383 🔸 What to do with yourself on the days when you are nowhere near your best version

1 Aug 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.03

  Unburdening ourselves of parental expectations, which I wrote about last time, leaves a freer space inside. But in that freer space, sometimes without the externalised critical voice to guide us, we confront our own failures directly. And precisely...