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#343 ๐Ÿ”ธ Why the most powerful people in bed are those who know when to relinquish control

4 Jul 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

ย  Authentic desire, which I wrote about last time, has a condition I did not state explicitly: it requires being present enough and free enough inside to be truly there. And one of the most frequent barriers to this presence is a dynamic we carry int...

#342 ๐Ÿ”ธ The difference between having sex out of desire and having sex out of obligation and why it matters more than you think

3 Jul 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

ย  The everyday touches I wrote about last time build a foundation of warmth and presence from which desire can grow naturally. And it is precisely about desire that I want to talk today, not about desire as a biological reflex, not about its frequenc...

#341 ๐Ÿ”ธ The small touches you ignore every day that could change the temperature of your entire relationship

3 Jul 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

ย  The couple relationship as an engine of personal growth, which I wrote about last time, asks us to be present and attentive to what happens between us and our partner. And there is a level of this presence that does not take place in the grand mome...

#340 ๐Ÿ”ธ Why a couple relationship is the most difficult and the most effective school of personal development

2 Jul 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

ย  Subtle communication in intimacy, which I wrote about last time, shows us how much of a relationship takes place beyond what we can verbalise or plan. And precisely this depth, this capacity of intimacy to touch us at levels other experiences do no...

#339 ๐Ÿ”ธ What your body communicates in intimacy that words could never say

1 Jul 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

ย  Past intimate experiences shape our perception of relationships, as I wrote last time. But there is a level at which all these experiences meet and express themselves simultaneously, without words, without planning, without filter: bodily communica...

#338 ๐Ÿ”ธ Why past experiences dictate what you believe you deserve in love without you realising it

1 Jul 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

ย  The absorbed taboos I wrote about last time shape our expectations about what is possible and permitted in intimate life. But beyond taboos, there is something even more specific and personal that shapes our perception of relationships: the intimat...

#337 ๐Ÿ”ธ The unwritten rules about sex you absorbed without knowing and that control your intimate life

30 Jun 2026 3 minute read 2 comments luciman

Sexual energy spills over into all areas of life, as I wrote last time. But this energy is often blocked or distorted by something we absorbed long before we understood what we were absorbing: taboos. Not those declared explicitly, but the implicit o...

#336 ๐Ÿ”ธ What your sexual life has to do with how well you perform at work and in society

29 Jun 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

Self-love reflected in sensuality, which I wrote about last time, does not remain contained within private life. It manifests in the way you are present in the world, in the quality of your presence towards others, in the energy you bring to any soci...

#335 ๐Ÿ”ธ How the relationship you have with yourself shows up in every touch and every intimate moment

29 Jun 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

ย  Conscious presence in intimacy, which I wrote about last time, requires something I have not said explicitly until now: to be well enough with yourself to be genuinely there. To not be so preoccupied with how you look, how you are perceived, or wha...

#334 ๐Ÿ”ธ What happens in the brain and the heart when you are truly present in intimacy

28 Jun 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

ย  The balance between pleasure and responsibility, which I wrote about last time, is only possible when you are genuinely present in what you are experiencing, not on autopilot and not behind a wall of self-censorship. And precisely this conscious pr...