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#268 🔸 Why "I'm sorry" sometimes does more damage than silence

14 May 2026 3 minute read 2 comments luciman

  Negative emotions, which I wrote about last time, leave marks. Sometimes they leave wounds. And wounds in a relationship do not disappear on their own. They need something specific to close: real forgiveness, not the performative kind. And that is...

#267 🔸 What anger, sadness and frustration are actually telling you about your relationship

14 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

  The balance between independence and closeness, which I wrote about last time, requires something few people practise consciously: the capacity to sit with their own emotions without immediately throwing them at the other person or burying them ent...

#266 🔸 Why those who love each other most sometimes need distance the most

13 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

  Personality differences, which we talked about last time, inevitably raise a broader question: how do you remain yourself within a relationship, without losing yourself in the other person and without drifting so far apart that you become two stran...

#265 🔸 Why the person you chose to be with is also the one who irritates you the most

12 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

  Jealousy, which we talked about last time, often has a deeper fuel than it appears: the feeling that you are not enough compared to who the other person is or who they might become without you. And that brings me to something equally challenging: t...

#264 🔸 Jealousy is not proof of your love, it is a mirror of your fears

12 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

  Shared passions keep a couple connected, I said last time, but there is a feeling that can sabotage any form of connection, regardless of how solid the ground built together is: jealousy. Not because it is a monster in itself, but because, misunder...

#263 🔸 What happens to a couple when the two of them have nothing in common apart from a house and children

11 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

  The daily rituals we talked about last time keep a relationship anchored in the present. But there is another level of connection, less about the small moments and more about shared direction: what do you do together that nourishes both of you, not...

#262 🔸 Why boring couples are actually the smartest ones

10 May 2026 3 minute read 2 comments luciman

  Last time we talked about how genuine support means letting the other person remain whole, having their own space and their own rhythm. And yet, once each of you has that space, another question arises: how do you stay connected in everyday...

#261 🔸 Why you sometimes suffocate the person you love precisely because you love them too much

10 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

  The moments that test a relationship, which we discussed last time, reveal not only what each person feels, but also how they respond when the other person is in need. And that is precisely where one of the most delicate tensions in a couple emerge...

#260 🔸 The moments when you find out whether what you have is real love or just comfort

9 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

  Your partner's body speaks to you even when it stays silent, I said last time, and sometimes what it communicates is precisely this: that the relationship is going through a difficult moment. And that brings me to something many people avoid examin...

#259 🔸 What your partner's body is telling you when their mouth stays silent

8 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman

  Daily respect, which we talked about last time, is often visible not in what we say, but in how we behave when we say nothing. And that brings me precisely to today's subject: what the other person's body communicates in the moments when words are...