Life with invisible disabilities but full of opportunities. Mental health, autism, ADHD

Why trying to please everyone is a lost battle

22 Jul 2023 4 minute read 0 comments valo

Being a people pleaser is doomed to fail and guarantees misery   People-pleasing is a behavior pattern characterized by the excessive need to make others happy, often at the expense of one’s own well-being and personal boundaries. While it is normal...

Overcoming Frustration with Yourself and Your Mistakes: Strategies for Growth and Self-Compassion

18 Jul 2023 4 minute read 0 comments valo

Transforming Negative Self-Talk and Perceived Shortcomings into Opportunities for Personal Development   As human beings, we all experience moments of frustration with ourselves and our mistakes. These feelings can be challenging, even overwhelming,...

The Impact of Executive Functioning Deficits on Daily Life and Work

12 Jul 2023 3 minute read 0 comments valo

What it is and how it affects us   Executive functioning is not about how the executives in a company are doing their job. However, they need to be really good at it in order to excel at it. Executive functioning is a set of cognitive processes that...

The Unique Struggles of Having Both Autism and ADHD

10 Jul 2023 2 minute read 0 comments valo

Dealing with two beasts at once Navigating life with both autism and ADHD can be particularly challenging, as the combination of these neurodevelopmental conditions presents unique difficulties. Individuals with both autism and ADHD may experience ex...

My Battle With Mental Illness: A Story Of Survival And Relapse

2 Jul 2023 2 minute read 0 comments valo

A lifelong journey Time and again, we hear the stories of people who have overcome their depressive episodes and managed to reach happiness. We’re familiar with the cliches of individuals who triumph over adversity, but often, mental illness can be a...

Unveiling the Mask: An Autistic Adult’s Journey to Self-Acceptance

23 Apr 2023 5 minute read 3 comments valo

Embracing one’s authentic self after an autism diagnosis in adulthood Autism masking has long been a method of survival for those on the spectrum. As an autistic person who received a diagnosis in adulthood, I can attest to the complex challenges tha...

My negativity journal

20 Feb 2023 2 minute read 1 comment valo

I was born (or made?) a pessimist. When I am disturbed, I don’t want to hear how I need to be grateful for this or that. Yes, in general, one needs to be, but hearing it when you are affected by emotions is dismissive. It literally sounds like: oh, b...

There isn't just one word to describe love

26 Dec 2022 2 minute read 0 comments valo

A sanctuary Love is a sanctuary, a safe haven to retreat to and recuperate during hardship. Love gives you warmth and a source of energy to recuperate from the hardship that you face on a daily basis. Do you remember when you were a small child how y...

The weight of depression on your shoulders

8 Dec 2022 1 minute read 0 comments valo

We have heard time and again how common depression is, how harsh it can be on the individual, and how being understood is surprisingly rare. There is stigma around mental health conditions. And there is also a lack of belief. There is blame for being...

Mental Health Awareness: Key Lessons and Observations in 11 stories

3 Dec 2022 3 minute read 0 comments valo

May 2022 marked the beginning of a journey to spread knowledge and awareness about mental health, particularly for neurodivergent people. Here is an overview of those that concern mental health in general. Every link leads to the respective article....