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20 Apr 2026 2 minute read 0 comments luciman
Having talked about the impact of our own emotions on those around us, the emotions we transmit without speaking, it is worth looking now at what happens when we do speak, but without actually saying anything real. Superficial communication is one of...
19 Apr 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
In managing disappointments and unmet expectations, we talked at length about what others do to us. Now it is time to turn that gaze in the other direction, the less comfortable one: what do we do to others, through the emotions we carry and transmit...
19 Apr 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
If constructive feedback asks us to tell difficult truths with care, there is an even harder type of truth to voice: the one we carry when someone we care about has disappointed us. Not necessarily through anything dramatic, but through the distance...
18 Apr 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
After talking about how to connect authentically even with difficult people, a natural next step emerges: once the connection exists, how do you use it to say things that truly matter? Constructive feedback is precisely that bridge between connection...
17 Apr 2026 3 minute read 2 comments luciman
We have just explored how much of our behaviour is shaped by social forces we cannot see. Now we take a more concrete step: what do we do with the difficult people we cannot avoid, those in our family, at work or in our social circle, people we must...
17 Apr 2026 4 minute read 0 comments luciman
If relational tensions show us what happens between two people, there is an even broader level at which our relational life is shaped: that of the group, of society, of the collective dynamics we absorb without requesting them and without fully becom...
16 Apr 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
The boundaries we talked about last time don't eliminate tensions in relationships. Sometimes they even produce them, at least temporarily. And that is precisely why a question follows that I find essential: what do we do with tension itself? Not how...
15 Apr 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
If patience towards others' flaws asks us to be gentler with human imperfection, there is a delicate balance we need to maintain at the same time: being gentle doesn't mean being without limits. On the contrary, healthy boundaries are precisely what...
15 Apr 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
After talking about how to read the hidden emotions of those around us, a more uncomfortable question arises naturally: what do we do when, even after we have understood where someone's difficult behaviour comes from, it still irritates us? Understan...
14 Apr 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
We have just talked about how empathy without boundaries can drain us of energy. But there is an even finer layer to that conversation: what happens when emotions in relationships are neither expressed nor absent, but hidden, camouflaged in behaviour...
