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4 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
Love and desire do not follow the same calendar, and the better we understand that, the greater our chances of building something that lasts. Attraction does not disappear all at once. It erodes slowly, in layers, and most of the time you d...
3 May 2026 5 minute read 2 comments luciman
In recognising toxic patterns and the way we contribute to them, we open an even deeper level of the same conversation: what happens to the emotions that have never found a channel for expression or processing? Not the behavioural patterns themselves...
2 May 2026 5 minute read 0 comments luciman
Understanding how the past shapes our relational present, a practical and urgent question arises: what do we do when the patterns inherited from the past are not merely limiting, but actively harmful? When we are not talking about a heightened sensit...
2 May 2026 5 minute read 0 comments luciman
Shared vulnerability, which we explored in the previous article, requires courage. But there is something that makes this courage even harder to mobilise for many people: the past. Not the past as a story you tell at dinner, but the past as a set of...
1 May 2026 6 minute read 0 comments luciman
In talking about the silence between couples and what it communicates without words, we concluded that some of the deepest messages in a relationship are precisely the unspoken ones. But there is a moment when silence must give way to words, and that...
30 Apr 2026 5 minute read 0 comments luciman
In exploring authenticity as the foundation of healthy relationships, we arrived at the conclusion that being real in a relationship means bringing everything you are, including the things left unsaid. And that leads me directly to a subject I consid...
29 Apr 2026 5 minute read 0 comments luciman
In talking about the art of compromise, we arrived at a conclusion worth exploring more deeply: healthy compromise is only possible when you know who you are. And that leads me directly to the subject of this article, one which, the more I think abou...
29 Apr 2026 5 minute read 2 comments luciman
In exploring what builds a lasting bond beyond initial passion, we concluded that friendship, respect and commitment sustain a relationship through time. But all of these inevitably require something that few people practise well: compromise. Not com...
28 Apr 2026 5 minute read 0 comments luciman
Emotional intimacy, which we explored in the previous article, is one of the pillars of a profound relationship. But there is a question that completes it naturally: what happens to passion over time? And, more importantly, what builds a bond that la...
27 Apr 2026 5 minute read 0 comments luciman
We were talking about how conflicts reveal the real structure of a relationship and arrived at the conclusion that what remains after a well-navigated conflict is usually more intimacy, not less. And it was precisely that which led me to the question...
