There are those who are terrified of changes and there are those who, however, do not always endure the same, something asks of them at some point something else. But like it or not, the changes exist.
It is impossible for everything to remain the same, rather, it is the opposite: everything changes. This is life, we also change so it is normal to look for and expect new things. But these "surprises" are not always so longed for, a conscious, sought and worked change is not the same as something that arrives unexpectedly without warning. Because also, at first glance, we do not think that they are always good. Possibly some people, for that reason, prefer to stay as they are.
But as I said, it can't be, throughout our journey we evolve and in reality it would be boring to always be the same no matter how much we like how things are going, because in the end somehow it is true that it tires, loses perspective or the desire. To be better, we have to go out, do new things and as much as it sounds now, get out of our comfort zone. Is that the fear of many?
On the other hand, there are those who are clear about it, monotony does not teach anything else, and news can give us a boost, especially if we look for new illusions in our lives, because over time, do they not disappear with routine? Can you live without illusions? There are those who do nothing, and just wait for something to happen...
Sure you want something, you have some goal that you would like to achieve. Those are undoubtedly the most difficult changes, the ones that you want to create yourself, they can also be scary, but in the end the satisfaction will be greater. To do this, we should have a plan, if you are clear about what to do and you get going, you will be closer to those goals or you will adapt them according to your new beliefs and preferences, we too will change. But neither is it good to despair, everything has its time, since time rarely coincide with our desires, so you have to have confidence, determination and a lot of patience, always.
But plans can also go wrong or in a different way, that is, as you did not expect, that sometimes is scary. You thought it would be one thing and you realize that it is not what you had in mind (be careful what you wish for because sometimes it can come true). In these cases, it is good to consider or try to analyze the reason for all this, how we got until here, it is better to learn from the experience, whatever, since it will help us in one way or another in the long term, although now we do not know how to see it.
And if we are not waiting for anything to happen but suddenly it does, that unforeseen event that upsets our controlled world can plunge us into an attack or put us in front of a challenge. We know well that unforeseen events come into our lives that change everything and nothing is the same again. We will debate between sadness, nostalgia and a certain anger, when in reality acceptance is essential and thinking logically, what is the best way to overcome it? Could it get even better than before? Here, another much-mentioned concept now comes into play: resilience. If you are not sure what it is, look at it on internet (it will stay more in your head if you search for it), read things, learn and be resilient, it is the best way to face what comes to us.
Resilience: the ability to be happy, successful, etc. again after something difficult or bad has happened.
Resilience is the ability to withstand adversity and bounce back from difficult life events.
But, can it be worse to want things to change and nothing to happen? It can be frustrating, to see how the days go by, that everything happens the same, that nothing changes (it sounds like a sad song) and you look around you seeing how others move fast and evolve, and you remain, without more, what is the purpose? It gives the feeling that no matter how hard you try and no matter how patient you are, you can't do anything. What happens when you can't change what you want to change yourself? In the end despair invades you and resignation eats away at you, you feel like you are sinking in quicksand, well, you don't even sink, you are just there, as always, stagnant.
Well, look, it is time to think, to know what you want, and if you are sure that you do not want to continue the same, you will look and look for a branch to hold on to, you will join more forces to get ahead, think of a plan b (like McGyver). Also, something is on your side, nothing is immutable, so you have that advantage, transform first your energy and change!
