"Cishet" is a name made up with hate. Calling yourself that is the same as anyone using hate speech against anyone else.
— Dave
Dear Dave,
It seems to me that you are somewhat confused about what "cishet" and "hate speech" mean. Since you're not alone in that by any means (a common failing of many white men, particularly from North America), let me attempt (most likely in vain) to straighten that out (pun intended) for you ...
- Cishet: An abbreviated portmanteau of "cisgendered" and "heterosexual": To be cisgendered means that one's sexuality and gender align in a consistent way regarding the sex assigned at birth (eg: a heterosexual man, one who is sexually attracted to women OR a heterosexual woman attracted to men).
- Heteronormative: noting or relating to behaviour or attitudes consistent with traditional male or female gender roles and the assumption of heterosexuality as the norm
- Hate speech: speech, writing, or nonverbal communication that attacks, threatens, or insults a person or group (often from a minority) on the basis of national origin, ethnicity, skin colour, religion, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, or disability
Being identified by one's gender and/or sexual identity, by itself, does not constitute hate speech. Even if it did, being a cishet white man doesn't constitute being part of a minority/persecuted group by any means. (Due to the nature of how Patriarchy is set up and functions, we are the members of society who carry the most privilege cards; we go through life on the lowest difficulty setting.) Take your persecution complex and shove it; nobody's treading on you.
Have I been given stick for being heterosexual, white and a man? Yes. Does the combination of those make me feel like I'm viewed as the devil incarnate in many of my online interactions? Yes, sometimes it does. Does it have any actual bearing on my real, offline life? Hell no! I'm free to go about my business as I see fit, say what I want and do what I want pretty much free from any serious consequences. Can the same be said by/for minority groups who are subjected to actual hate speech and discrimination against them? Most likely not.
If you're interested in further reading, I direct you to a prior post of mine, "Ain't Nobody Got Time for Cishet White Men's Bull". Maybe you were one of the fragile, offended cowards whom read it and gave it downvotes without bothering to comment. That strikes me as likely.
Toodles, Poodle!
The Snark
