''Long time ago, the Assyrian King wanted to find a husband for his daughter. So he told her to wait in the balcony of a very high tower, and whoever could reach her would have the princess as wife. Many tried, but the way up seems to be treacherous. Sharp thorns, slippery walls, arrow heads, the tower seems to be impossible to climb. Until one day when the Prince of Baghdad was passing by. And when he looked up, he suddenly felt lost in the deepness of the princess green’s eyes. And he felt in love. He was not a warrior by nature, nor did he have the strength to climb. But he was in love, and he was trained by the last Old Mage of the past. So, when he felt the calling of her beauty, he magically flied to the balcony using his flying carpet, and the lived happily ever after.''

You know that feeling when you want to do something and and you feel that nothing can stop you to do it. You feel the call, and you know that you will do it, because it is something that you are really interested in.

It started with research for a blog post about why our love fade with time. About why we stop being in love. I looked for the biochemical, psychological, medical and anthropological explanation. Then i understood that, in order to find why we stop being in love, i need to understand why we fall in love, at first. I found so many ground breaking researches and information. I read what happen with our body when we fall in love, when we are in love and when love starts to go away. How our brain react, how our body change, how we become better, stronger and more creative than ever. Is is amazing. And how it is something else that cannot be measured by science, how it is really something transcendent, that we cannot measure at our actual level of progress. What is be hing a kiss, or even more, what happen when we make love. And more i found, more i understand that i do not know enough.

So, for the start, let's learn what it is not.

Attraction - What is it and how happen in 10 random phrases

1. a: something interesting or enjoyable that people want to visit, see, or do

b: a performer who people want to see

c: a feeling that makes someone romantically or sexually interested in another person

(Webster dictionary)

2. a) a person or thing that catches the attention of another being

b) the magnetic force that pulls two people together regardless of their own will

c) easy to avoid, but impossible to ignore

(Urban dictionary)

3. 1.The action or power of evoking interest in or liking for someone or something:

the timeless attraction of a good tune.

1.1 A quality or feature that evokes interest, liking, or desire:

this reform has many attractions for those on the left

1.2 A place which draws visitors by providing something of interest or pleasure:

the church is the town’s main tourist attraction

1.3 Physics: A force under the influence of which objects tend to move towards each other:

gravitational attraction

1.4 Grammar The influence exerted by one word on another which causes it to change to an incorrect form, e.g. the wages of sin is (for are) death.

Origin

Late Middle English (denoting the action of a poultice in drawing matter from the tissues): from Latin attractio(n-), from the verb attrahere (see attract).

(Oxford dictionary)

4.Attraction is beyond our will or ideas sometimes.

(Juliette Binoche)

5. I think romance is friendship and attraction sort of meeting together and that does influence what I'm writing a lot. I try to establish the attraction, obviously, but I also think it's important to show the characters having actual conversations about things other than their feelings for each other - and to develop their friendship on the page.

6. Barriers tend to intensify romance. It's called the 'Romeo and Juliet effect.' I call it 'frustration attraction.'

(Helen Fisher)

7. I was always attracted not by some quantifiable, external beauty, but by something deep down, something absolute. Just as some people have a secret love for rainstorms, earthquakes, or blackouts, I liked that certain undefinable something directed my way by members of the opposite sex. For want of a better word, call it magnetism. Like it or not, it’s a kind of power that snares people and reels them in.

(Haruka Murakami)

8. I think women are sexy when they got some clothes on. And if later they take them off then you've triumphed. Somebody once said it's what you don't see you're interested in, and this is true.

(Groucho Marx)

9. Nature wishes that woman should attract man, yet she often cunningly molds into her face a little sarcasm, which seems to say, 'Yes, I am willing to attract, but to attract a little better kind of a man than any I yet behold.

(Ralph Waldo Emerson)

10. The mysterious magnet is either there, buried somewhere deep behind the sternum, or it is not.

(Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love)

And just to end it in an optimistic note:

'Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God's energies of love, and then, for a second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.'

(Pierre Teilhard de Chardin)

Speaking from a scientist point of view, this quote is very true. Any moment, any feeling, any thought, all of them are making modifications in our own physiology. And what is better than love, in order to make us to reach a new level, a perfect health of our body, our emotions and our mind. Is something not very easy to be measured, but the common sense will made us to understand. And yes, this could be the greatest discovery of the mankind, after fire.

I will write more about this subject soon. 

Have a nice week!

G.