Excitation of the autonomic nervous system

When it is difficult for us to communicate with solvency to one or several people, the cause is usually in insecurity itself and also in stress and anguish.

We fear doing it wrong or showing ourselves incompetent and, it is precisely that fear that feeds the anxiety. Also, this type of anxiety occurs primarily because our brain encodes these situations as threats.

The anguish to be judged, to make it bad or to make a fool of yourself, activates our autonomic nervous system and then, a whole series of symptoms is triggered: nervousness, tachycardia, dry mouth, shortness of breath, sweating ... All this further hinders the communication.

The situational factor

Another indispensable factor to assess is the situational. There are environments, moments and people that exert greater pressure on the person, getting us to doubt ourselves, that we feel certain insecurity and even low self-efficacy.

An example of this would be to start a new job where we are expected to have communication skills to attract customers. That pressure creates anguish and more, when we perceive ourselves as ineffective in that ability. All these are elements that put us to the test.

How to speak with confidence: keys to achieve it

To speak with confidence, each of us depart from our personal reality. There will be someone who simply lacks only a bit of filming, ease and gift of people. Others, on the other hand, must make a deeper internal restructuring, where to put out insecurities, boost self-esteem, file negative thoughts, better manage anxiety ...

Strategies to communicate better from self-confidence

• Focus on the message you want to convey, it is the only thing that matters. Set aside other thoughts, fears and anxieties and focus only on what you want to say and to whom it is directed.
• Get out of yourself and connect with who you have in front of you, be it one person, several or a large audience. The connection is power and you can even enjoy that alliance. If you feel comfortable, you transmit comfort. If you feel fear, you will transmit anguish.
• When communicating effectively hurries are prohibited. Do it slowly, one idea after another, in harmony, calmly, but with emphasis on what you say and express so that others feel attracted.
• Do not blunt, avoid repetitions, muffins or interjections.
• Appeal to emotions, tell anecdotes, personalize ... Simplicity always captivates.

To conclude, when faced with the question of how to speak with confidence, the answer is always simple: with a lot of practice and with good self-confidence. Because when we finally managed to trust ourselves the fears are no longer so great, we dominate the insecurities better and we even allowed ourselves to have fun in those situations that not long ago, they seemed threatening.