What defines you isn't what is thrown at you but how you respond to it. It's your reaction that determines or defines you. It's not what others say about you that matters but what you have said to yourself when they are done talking. You might have similar background or story but you can choose to turn out differently.
One of our major problem in life is the world because a lot of people live their lives trying to seek approval from others. Most people have become a secondary character in their life's story. What we see around influences but what you do determines who you are.
We are also responsible for the problems we have in the world today. No one can stop you unless you stop yourself. When you want to blame anyone for how you turned out, look into the mirror and know that you have a part to play in it.
Of course, we know the devil has a hand in the problems we are facing in the world today but the devil is only limited to the extent we allow the operation.
God can use what you are going through to correct you and sometimes to test you. Test you to build character not to make you fail. God can use many situations to bring you back on track. Sometimes the greatest motivation to change is pain. Comfort breeds lack of change sometimes but when pain is introduced into the equation, we see things clearly the way we should. It all depends on how we are seeing it and how we can use it for a greater good because God wants to use situations of life to make us better and not bitter.
Challenges in life are designed to protect you. It's all about how you are seeing it. God can take you round but never take you wrong. God knows the beginning from the end and knows the end from a starting point. Some challenges are designed to protect us but we always allow our emotions to get into the way of us knowing the intent of God in it all. Your thought pattern is your problem and not the actual problem you are facing.
Pain is the high cost of growth. You cannot grow without pain. Most people want the product without the process. Gold doesn't come out as it is without the pain of process; refining through the fire. Always ask God, "How are you using this for my good?" "How are you using this to develop me?" These questions would give you perspective rather than the usual "Why me, God?". Our approach and thinking determines how we will coast through challenges and how fast too.
God is all about building character and that's why we go through processes. God won't give us success we don't have the capacity to handle because it means we would self destruct and God does perfect things. Once your faith is tested, look into what God wants to build in you through it.
How Do You Respond? - Romans 5:3-4.
Thank God for what you don't have in faith that He will, because God always come through. Would you be able to maintain your integrity even in the face of what you are going through? How can you grow in your current situation without losing perspective or blaming others for what's not going right? When you stop blaming others for what's wrong with your life, you will start seeing the intention of God in it.
Even when you don't get it or see the intention of God in what you are going through, keep trusting in Him. Your limited understanding cannot fully grasp the full extent of what God is doing. Just know all things work together for your good and as the heaven is higher than the earth, so are His ways higher than ours. If you know where your solution is, then you won't need God but the fact that you don't know where it is, it's the major reason why you need to trust Him because He is the Almighty.
Thank you for your time.
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