FuckboiClownLife now has at least two known racists on its team of predominantly cishet white caretakers, has become overrun with fuckbois, incels, sex offenders and sexual predators and traffickers. Not only that, but the site now has policies in place to protect these individuals. (Reporting gets the reporters and whistleblowers banned, not the perpetrators.) The site owner (John baku) has openly expressed sadness at the fact people are calling them out and giving him and his team push-back for it.

Carebear: "Fet is not the right place to warn community members about predators and RSOs on the site."
User: "Alright, but can you please tell me what is the right place for that?"
Carebear: "..."
 — Exchange via email, when the user reported an account

"In condemnation, not defense of caretakers: It's play pretend moderation & governance, the facade of implementing a ToU policy in practice when they, in reality, don’t give two fucks about user safety or activity of predators, etc. But yet, if someone was being mean to a cishet white male incel, the cavalry would be riding in … JB is a liar! 🤷‍♂️"
 — A user on the site, in response to outcry over a catfish posting someone else's photos and rape fantasies, while the carebears do nothing.

It's clear where John Baku's priorities lie and they have nothing to do with the privacy and safety of feminists, non-men and/or actual participants/practitioners of BDSM/kinksters on the site. Maybe it once was, but this site is now no longer operated for the benefit and interests of the international fetish community. It has indeed become a "free sex" vanilla porn site for fuckbois and incels, akin to YouPorn (but those supplying it are going unpaid). Baku is no better than Andrew Tate. The difference is that he's not doing the dirty work himself, only facilitating it and claiming not to know what's going on (much like his hero, Zuckerborg), for the sake of plausible deniability. Fratlife is now for people who want BDSM lite, panderers spinning them fantasies and telling them lies (at least if the content that makes K/P is any indicator). That is not the reality of BDSM IRL. I know this not because I have much experience in the scene, but because I read the writings of those that do have and I learn from them. Plus, I've got a pretty accurate/reliable bullshit detector. It says Fet stinks to high heaven and nobody's cleaning it up; the sewage keeps pouring in across the welcome mat.

The writing has been on the wall for years, closer to a decade. We've all seen the signs that things are going to get worse and they steadily have been. Still, we have hoped in vain of reaching John Baku and getting him to see sense, to change his ways and redeem himself. He isn't going to, because he simply doesn't care to. That ship has sailed and sunk long ago. He's perfectly happy carrying on in his ignorance and cishet white male privilege. Taking money from scum is not hurting him or his business. Every second we spend on the site reinforces his authority here, silently consents to and strengthens the illegitimacy of his business.

If we go, he will be left with being in charge of a sausage fest that will implode in on itself. Nearly a third of the site's user base has already left, if the figures on the home page are to be believed. In my opinion, it's time for the rest of us to do so too. If that doesn't kill the site, it might be the catalyst for change, but I remain doubtful.

If ever there was a time to leave for other sites, it is surely now. The question is this, though: To where the hell shall we go that isn't sleazy as hell and riddled with the exact same problems? Is there a site where the owners/admins and caretakers actually give a damn about the safety and well-being of its community members (instead of consistently and repeatedly letting us down by just paying lip service to them), where they are more important than making money off radical misogynists looking to exploit us? Does such a site exist or is it a utopian fantasy? Well, it's high time we found out. Let's get out there and investigate. I, for one, am exporting my data and GTFO of there! I have finally had enough of the bullshit.

Sadly, the site has deteriorated so much and the people running it are so out of touch that "If you don't like it, just leave" has become the only practical option. Fighting for change and improvement is pointless when it's falling on deaf ears and only serving as a source of frustration. If you can't change the system from within, tear it down. If you can't do that either, then get as far away from it as you can, while you still can. Yes, I will be sad to leave behind my friends, followers and the accounts I follow there, but I have to do what's best for me. So long and thanks for all the fish, I guess.

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