By QueenB.Divine
Notice this. Every day we make judgment calls. We judge people, situations, relationships, our bank accounts and, if you're into crypto, Lord help us, we definitely judge those damn charts. My mother was a very biblical woman and used to say something along the lines of, “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” I'm not a biblical person, so don't come looking for chapter and verse from me. The point I took from it was simple: be careful making judgments when you don't know the whole story. Yet there's one judgment I've made about my own life probably a thousand times: Nothing is going right.
That's a hell of a statement when you think about it. Nothing? Not one thing? We've looked at a tiny piece of our lives and somehow declared the entire portfolio red. And crypto has actually made me think about this differently because anybody who has watched crypto for more than five minutes knows how quickly your perception can change. You can look at a chart one morning and think, Oh my God, what the hell happened? Everything is red. Bitcoin is down. Something you bought is down even more. Your little coin that was supposed to “go to the moon” apparently missed the moon and is drilling toward the centre of the Earth. Suddenly you're questioning the investment, the market and perhaps every financial decision you've made since you got your first allowance.
But here's the question I've had to start asking myself about crypto and about life: How do I know this particular moment means everything is going wrong?
I'm not talking about pretending losses aren't losses. If you lost money, you lost money. If you bought something without understanding it because somebody on the internet had a ring light, a Lamborghini and way too much confidence, that's something worth learning from. I'm also not saying every crypto project magically comes back. Some don't. This isn't one of those “just believe harder” conversations. I'm talking about the habit of looking at one moment and believing we already know the ending.
I've done the same thing with my life. There were times I faced eviction. Times I was hungry. Times I didn't know who to call. Times my health didn't make sense to me. I ran away from home when I was around eleven and ended up in group homes. By the time I reached adulthood, there were moments when I genuinely wondered whether somebody out there had accidentally put my name on the wrong damn life. I said it constantly: Nothing is going right.
Then one day that sentence came back into my mind and something inside me answered, “But how do you know?”
Well, shit.
I didn't.
I knew what hurt. I knew what wasn't happening according to my plan. I knew what I wanted that I wasn't getting. I knew what I had lost. But I didn't know what some of those experiences were going to become five, ten or twenty years later. I was basically staring at one red candle on the chart of my entire existence and declaring the company bankrupt.
That's where crypto becomes an interesting metaphor for life. Zoom in far enough and everything can look terrifying. One candle. One hour. One bad day. One terrible week. Your eyes become glued to every movement. Up. Down. Up. Down. Refresh. Refresh again. Refresh one more time because apparently Bitcoin was waiting for you personally to check before deciding what to do next.
Life can become exactly like that.
Something goes wrong and we emotionally refresh it all day. Why did this happen? What am I going to do? Why hasn't this changed? What if it gets worse? Why isn't somebody fixing this? We stare at the problem so closely that eventually the problem becomes the entire chart.
Sometimes you have to zoom out.
That's not just a crypto lesson. That's a survival lesson.
When I zoom out on my own life, I can see things differently. Some experiences I once called completely wrong redirected me. Some things that fell apart needed to fall apart. Some things hurt while they were breaking and hurt while they were healing. That's another thing I've learned: breaking can hurt and healing can hurt too. Pain alone doesn't always tell you which direction you're going.
Think about a broken arm. Breaking it hurts. Healing it can hurt. Same arm. Same pain signals. Completely different process. Sometimes we feel discomfort and immediately assume we're moving backward because we've trained ourselves to believe progress should always feel good.
Crypto certainly doesn't teach you that.
Markets move. Fear moves. Greed moves. People move. Everybody suddenly becomes a financial prophet when things are green, and when things turn red half the internet starts screaming like somebody pulled the fire alarm. That's why understanding what you're doing matters. Your decisions shouldn't be controlled entirely by whatever colour happens to be flashing on the screen today.
And neither should your opinion of your life.
There are moments when action is necessary. If the investment no longer makes sense according to your own research and risk tolerance, you have a decision to make. If you can't afford something, reality matters. If you're in trouble, get help. “Trust the universe” isn't a replacement for paying attention. I don't want anybody sitting beside a burning kitchen saying, “QueenB.Divine told me not to interfere.” Girl, call somebody. The kitchen is on fire.
But there are also situations where we've done what we reasonably can and now we're simply trying to force an outcome because waiting makes us uncomfortable.
That's where I have had to learn to get out of my own way.
Sometimes you don't need another trade.
Sometimes you don't need another decision.
Sometimes you don't need to sell because you're scared, buy because you're excited, or chase something because somebody wrote 100X!!! beside a rocket emoji.
Sometimes financial self-care is doing absolutely nothing until your emotions stop driving the car.
And sometimes life self-care works the same way.
Nature does this beautifully. Seeds fall all over the place without asking permission. Nobody is standing in the forest moving every seed six inches to the left because its current position doesn't fit the five-year plan. Things land. Some grow. Some don't. Some disappear. Others become trees. Eventually you can have an entire ecosystem where, years earlier, everything might have looked like random shit scattered across the ground.
Maybe we sometimes judge our lives too early.
Maybe we judge our portfolios too early too—but that's not a promise that every investment will recover. It's a reminder that fear is not analysis and excitement isn't research. A red screen doesn't automatically mean “sell everything,” just as a green screen doesn't automatically mean “mortgage the house and buy more.” Please don't mortgage the house because some guy named CryptoDragon420 made an exciting thumbnail.
The same goes for life. One rejection isn't your identity. One failed business isn't your entire ability to create. One relationship ending doesn't mean you're unlovable. One terrible financial season doesn't mean you'll always struggle. One bad chapter isn't enough evidence to judge the entire book.
That's why I like journaling. Write down what you think is going completely wrong right now. Be raw about it. Don't write like you're submitting the journal to Oprah's book club. Write, This is bullshit. I hate this. I don't understand why this is happening. Then put it away.
Come back later.
You may still think it was bullshit.
But sometimes you'll read what you wrote and realize something extraordinary: you couldn't see what was happening because you were standing too close to it.
That's the same reason charts have different timeframes.
Perspective changes information.
I've started using “what if” differently too. We usually use it to torture ourselves. What if Bitcoin crashes? What if I lose everything? What if this doesn't work? What if I'm wrong? But what if can move in the other direction. What if that opportunity you missed protected you from something? What if the thing that didn't work pushed you toward something you never would have considered? What if you had gotten exactly what you begged for ten years ago and were still stuck with it today?
Some of my biggest gratitude lives inside those questions.
So when I hear myself thinking, Nothing is going right, I try not to immediately believe myself anymore. I ask another question.
How do I know?
Maybe nothing is going according to my prediction.
That's different.
Crypto taught a lot of us to stare at charts, but life has a chart too. And if you zoom out far enough, you might discover that some of those terrifying drops, strange sideways periods and unexpected turns were only pieces of a much bigger picture.
I'm still learning this. I'm not sitting on a mountain somewhere floating three inches above the ground while Bitcoin pays my bills. I'm a human being trying to figure things out like everybody else. Sometimes I still panic. Sometimes I still want an answer immediately. Sometimes I still want the universe to send me a damn notification saying, “Relax. This works out in approximately six business days.”
Unfortunately, I haven't found that setting.
So I breathe. I handle what I can actually control. I learn. I pay attention. I try not to make permanent decisions from temporary panic. And sometimes I step away from the chart altogether.
Because maybe everything isn't going wrong.
Maybe I just don't have enough information yet.
Zoom out before you judge the whole damn portfolio—and I'm not only talking about crypto.
The cure is conversation. Self-love and self-care will get you there.
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— QueenB.Divine
This is personal commentary and lived experience, not individualized financial or investment advice.
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