About friends I am going to think in this post with some words, experiences and more. Not always easy to remember some moments and talk about friendship but I want to reflect about different questions and to share with you also here this text and my thoughts.
And we start with some phrase!!! Because there is a phrase or proverb that says... "who find a friend find a treasure", there is even an Italian film from 1981 (with actors Bud Spencer and Terence Hill) of that name. Funny.
Image source: Filmaffinity.com
And it may be true, having a friend, even though it may seem like it, is not easy. We can meet a lot of people but friendship implies a deeper bond, giving up that initial facade to let us really know each other, knowing things that others don't know, and helping us when we need it most. They say it's in bad times when we find out who our friends really are.
And I think about what best friend means, the first person you turn to or think of, even in some cases with more relationship and affinity than with relatives, I have not really experienced it with the intensity and the time that I would have liked. Yes, at some point in our youth we thought we had that, a best friend, even more than one in different moments depending on the time, but my question is, should best friends always be?
Also now in these times, we have a new virtual world in which to find friends, although it is not the same. I don't think they can be the best of friends, but virtual friends can give us a lot, and in some way share ideas, thoughts and comments, share our days and worries or they can be happy when they see the photos of a trip. That is also friendship, right? What do you think?
Some people think to become friend many similarities are needed. It depends on what we mean by similarities, I do think there must be something in common, but it doesn't have to be physical, mental or even political. It is possible to have friends who think differently if we are empathetic, respectful and intelligent enough to hold interesting discussions with deep arguments that in the end enrich us all. Perhaps this is becoming increasingly difficult because I also believe that there are impossible points, on which a true, sincere and lasting friendship cannot be based.
There has to be something, a connection and affinity that brings us closer instead of pulling us away.
Sometimes friendships end or we end them... Over time people move away, follow different paths, their lives and ours are occupied in a different way. It is a way to end friendship, passively or tacitly. When neither party is really interested, nothing needs to be said, each one will go their own way without longing for anything, and that says it all. That has happened to me, in one sense and another. Unfortunately with a lot of people. Has that happened to you too?
Also sometimes in a more direct way, when you feel that it was not like before, that you feel that they are taking advantage of you or that they throw things in your face that a friend would not do, that you have changed, or that at the moment you need it you do not is by your side.
But sometimes this is necessary, we have to push away people that we discovered one day to be toxic, who in the end did not give us anything of what it should be, I always say that a lot of falsehood must be cleaned up, because there is a lot of it. And I add, there is no need to fear loneliness, because we are never alone, we are our best friend or at least we should be. And if you are not, ask yourself why.
We all have lost friends in different ways, without realizing it. Sometimes we thought that we had friends, but one day we realized that they were there for parties and trips, or to tell us their things or to ask us other things... but when all that good time ends, where were they? They have moved on with their lives and you have been left behind, with no one to turn around and look.
Some people believe that men and women cannot be real friends. I want to believe it is possible. There must be the same or more sincerity in these cases, everything must be clear because there can be also some misunderstanding and it is hard to manage it... but why not? To deny this would be to affirm that we cannot be friends with a large other part of the population, it would be sad. It may even be that in some cases it is even easier, if there is an affinity in the way of being or thinking, if there is that connection as human beings.
And what about soulmate friends? I imagine it must be the same as in love, in the end there are different types of connections at a deeper level, and there are friendships that have almost become brothers, as if they had always been together. I believe that beyond what we think, what we think or how we behave, there are things that truly unite us, those invisible threads that go from soul to soul, and friendship is another form of love, just like family love. Those divine threads can exist if we want to say so, in the end we are part of something bigger and somehow we can go fitting some piece, in our existence. Could it be some kind of miracle in our lives?
Image source: Unsplash.com (by Taylor Smith)
And to finish... I'm not sure I have any final thoughts, well actually, yes, I could add a lot, I guess from what we've been through and what these experiences and friendships have taught us. Because any friend we have had, good or bad, in the past or even in the present, all of them in some way or another have given us something, a lesson and an experience that is part of us and in our lives. So to all those who have passed through my life I thank you.
Thanks for reading! Have a nice and friendly day.
The text is mine by ©Duvinca and the photos are from the website Filmaffinity.com and from Unsplash.com
I have also published quite similar articles somehow on Hive (Ecency) and on Read.cash too some time ago...
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