The process for creation is one that requires great care, effort, and patience, or at times it may just be the case of forming the right thing, at the right time. Luck can play a great part in the success of what we do, and fortune as they say, favours the bold. It's easy enough for us to be drawn into admiring the bounties of our hard work, one that we've expensed a great deal of our souls into. At times, we may also become attached enough to a point of hatred, should anyone else chooses to dislike what we've created.
Confusion leads to anger, and that leads to hate, before long we begin to retaliate and imbue this darkness within ourselves for which was once occupied with only joy. All of this because someone disapproved of what you did? Humankind is a most diverse organism, not only as biological specimens, but the morals and thoughts that we each carry within ourselves. Great minds do think alike, but no two humans can share the exact same conceptions.
Each To Our Own.
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Somewhere, there's a deviation as slight as it needs be, one that separates you from everyone else. We're all different, with unique aspirations, tastes, and ways of thinking. We like, and dislike different things, which may eventually lead to a conflict when passions collide. This, I believe, is something that will always happen, and we should celebrate this as a part of how humans have, and will always behave.
If you're creating something, be true and do well to make the best of it. But know that there are others who will dislike them. This reminds me of a quote from Dita von Teese, a simple yet meaningful message, "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches ". It's a reminder that no matter who you are, kind and selfless as any human dreams to be, there's going to be those that will find faults with what you've done, and they'll have no qualms with fighting you.
Whether that's correct in their judgement, we might not know. Nevertheless, it's within their right should they choose as such. That's human nature, and though we are naturally passionate in our love for one another, somewhere deep inside, we have a primal instinct that livens at every beat of the heart. We cannot deny that feeling of displeasure, and sometimes, we're inclined to act on it. Do not blame that.
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From the perspective of someone who wishes to create and contribute, the feeling of disapproval is something that newer entrants can stumble upon very easily. Unlike those who've become more experienced in their art, it can have a big impact on novices, with this overarching clout of not knowing whether it was all worth it, or whether you should just give in. When you're just getting started, what you need is encouragement, thus it can be demoralising when you find people showing hatred to what you've made.
That 'dislike ' on YouTube, or the 'downvote ' on your blogpost can be an emotional pain. Slowly and surely, you'll get hung up on it, painfully expensing time and effort to find out why it was disliked, and what you did wrong. What were the reasons behind, if there was any at all? Did someone loathe what you did, or perhaps they were in a bad mood that day, maybe you've offended them somehow, or it was a mistake?
A myriad of questions to be asked, and assuming you've been able to engage in conversation with your 'hater', you might be left more puzzled than satisfied. Worse, you might become enraged, as you're locked in this endless battle of trying to justify yourself, and why you're right and they're wrong. It you've ever contemplated that, then don't. You're not going to change your mind, nor will they. It's never a question of who's right or wrong.
Keep Calm, And Move On.
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"You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches."
~ Dita von Teese.
Never get hung up over the negativity, and keep moving on. If there's a substantial amount of downvoting, then perhaps it's good to start giving thought as to why. If you've received constructive criticism, then it's beneficial to accept it, whether you agreed with it or not. If humanity is to prosper and evolve in peace, we must learn to tolerate one another. This also means that we have to live with each other's whims and faults, but know that there will always be disagreements.
If it cannot be resolved or understood, then the best course of action maybe to just agree, to disagree. Learn to live with acceptance, as otherwise this continuous cycle of confusion, anger, and hate will only turn against others, destroying what values and goodness that you might have within. It takes great courage to stand up, and stop that cycle.
Just because someone took the time to downvote what you've done, it doesn't mean that it's bad, or that the rest of the community around you doesn't appreciate it. If what we're doing is simply giving-in at the notion of disapproval as our first instinct, then some of the greatest humans in history, along with their achievements would not have been possible. Aristotle, Cicero, Mozart, Marie Curie, Winston Churchill, Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs, Malala Yousafzai - do you think they would've accomplished the goals that they had sought after, if they simply gave-up when someone said, "No " or, "You're wrong "?
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They kept going, as they believed in their aspirations. They believed in what accomplishing that meant, and for the people around them. It's that human spirit of adventure and curiosity that drove them forwards, and their critics were no match for the mettle that they've forged.
I made those same mistakes when I started writing blogposts. With each passing one, I had put too much attention as to how people would perceive them, and how they had reacted. While it's always important to keep an eye on how others thought of it, I was also getting distracted by those people who didn't like it, and for seemingly ambiguous reasons.
The more I kept observing those very few who hated what I wrote, it drew attention away from the masses that did enjoy them. Whether it was a good piece of writing to skim over, or it had genuinely brought a smile to their face, I was drowned by the, "No, you're wrong about this ", or the "Really, is that all that you have to say " flock of people.
Eventually, I learned that it meant nothing, and it shouldn't matter much to you either. With whatever you're creating, there will be those coming after you with a bitter taste in their mouths, and the best thing you can do is be modest, chin up, and take it with goodwill. After a good deal of time and effort, my work eventually paid off, as more people began giving positive feedback, and I became less concerned about those who were displeased. Now, I don't even think to myself much about them.
If you're out there, creating something for others to enjoy or ponder over, then keep doing what you do, and stand firmly by what you aspire to effect, lest they require good alterations. Keep composing your music, sketching your artwork, animating creations to life, building until the very last nail, or writing to your heart's content. There will be those who might not enjoy them as much as you, or others have, and that's perfectly fine. Don't ignore that, but do try to understand why. If that doesn't work, then keep calm, and carry on!
“When life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade. Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don't want your damn lemons, what the hell am I supposed to do with these?"
"Demand to see life's manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I'm the man who's gonna burn your house down! With the lemons! I'm gonna get my engineers to invent a combustible lemon that burns your house down!”
~ Cave Johnson, played by J.K Simmons, on Portal 2.
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