Stay calm!

By p1k4ppa10 | The World of P1k4ppa10 | 7 Jan 2023


They will always criticize you, they will speak ill of you and it will be difficult for you to meet someone who likes you just the way you are! So live, do what your heart tells you, life is like a theater work, but it has no initial rehearsals: sing, dance, laugh and live intensely every day of your life before the work ends without applause.

 

-Charlie Chaplin-

 

Thinking that others only ever judge you negatively is stressful. Change Mindset!

It's normal to want to make a good impression in front of other people: during a job interview, a meeting with your boss or on a first date. And it's just as normal, in those moments, to feel a slight state of anxiety. Indeed, it is important to try it because it is precisely that slight tension that most of the time allows you to give the best of yourself. But what happens when anxiety, in situations where you have to relate to others, takes over?



Everything is experienced as negative.
Fear of being judged by others, or social anxiety, manifests itself when one is asked to perform in front of some spectators or to interact with other people because there is a fear of appearing inadequate and incompetent and consequently receiving negative judgments.
Those who suffer from it see others as people who always tend to judge their actions, therefore, when they have to face an unusual situation and with new people, they focus all their attention on the signals that others send out, signals that, even if they are neutral, they automatically translates as precise criticisms of him.
Sometimes, for example, the person in front of you coughing is enough to feel negatively judged: that cough, which is just a cough, instead becomes a clear sign of disapproval.

It's not about shyness but about anxiety.
They are two different things; shyness is a personality trait and those who are shy may not like situations in which they can find themselves the center of attention, but are generally able to deal with them anyway. Otherwise, the anxiety experienced by those who strongly fear the judgment of others is disabling and in some cases it is so strong that it leads them to avoid as much as possible the situations that most relate to others.

Now let's look at some of the most feared situations...
They are many and different; these range from dancing, singing and public speaking to making new acquaintances, expressing your point of view in conversation and attending parties.
In the most serious cases, even going into a shop and asking to try on a dress or a pair of shoes becomes a problem.
What is feared in these cases? That others notice the discomfort and anxiety they feel about a series of awkwardnesses, mistakes and physical reactions which, according to them, are also a sign of weakness and insecurity: trembling of the voice, dry mouth, blushing, tachycardia, excessive sweating and restlessness.


Now let's see four useful tips to better face the others...

  1. Avoid avoidance. Do you always do what your friends say because if you contradict them you fear they will no longer involve you? Start expressing your wishes starting from the simplest situations. Have they decided for the umpteenth time to order sushi while you dream of a pizza? "I'd rather have a pizza" are the few simple words you have to say.

  2. Breathe and again...breathe. Diaphragmatic breathing is ideal for normalizing breathing and heartbeat therefore, before facing a situation that makes you anxious, such as talking to your boss, go to a quiet place and for a few minutes devoted exclusively to breathing. Then you will face the interview with more serenity.

  3. Work of the imagination. You have to present a report and fear that anxiety makes you look bad? Memorize it and then, in front of the mirror, pretend to expose it to your interlocutors. Or ask a couple of friends to be your audience and get them to also ask you questions about what you have exposed, so you also get used to future observations that can be made to you.

  4. Divert attention. Does walking into a crowded place always make you nervous? To keep anxiety under control you have to divert attention from yourself and the easiest way to do this is to focus on the thousands of noises that surround you: a telephone ringing, the clatter of dishes, the music you hear in the local...

Even for today I talked a lot lol! Have you found yourself in situations like this? You are shy? do you suffer from anxiety? Feel free to comment and share your thoughts below.

Hug you!

 

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Brave heart and kind tongue Will take you far to the Jungle...

 

 

 

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