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23 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
The dialogue that brings people closer, which I wrote about last time, has a prior condition we often overlook: knowing what you are truly listening to. Words are only one layer. Beneath them is the language of emotions, older, more direct, and mos...
14 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
The balance between independence and closeness, which I wrote about last time, requires something few people practise consciously: the capacity to sit with their own emotions without immediately throwing them at the other person or burying them ent...
11 May 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
As you begin to filter information more carefully and learn from the experiences of others, an uncomfortable realisation appears: even if you know what to do, it does not mean you will actually do it. Between decision and action, there is a factor th...
5 May 2026 2 minute read 0 comments luciman
If last time we talked about how difficult it is to express a need without turning it into a demand, today I want to go one step further, towards what actually happens in the moment communication slips out of control. Most conflicts in a couple do...
19 Apr 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
In managing disappointments and unmet expectations, we talked at length about what others do to us. Now it is time to turn that gaze in the other direction, the less comfortable one: what do we do to others, through the emotions we carry and transmit...
14 Apr 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
We have just talked about how empathy without boundaries can drain us of energy. But there is an even finer layer to that conversation: what happens when emotions in relationships are neither expressed nor absent, but hidden, camouflaged in behaviour...
30 Mar 2026 2 minute read 0 comments luciman
As we begin to better understand the intentions behind behaviour, the next natural step is learning how to face the moments when that behaviour turns into criticism. In any genuine relationship, criticism is inevitable. What truly matters is not its...
30 Mar 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
Trust and respect are built over time, yet they can be shaken in a moment when we misinterpret what we see. Often, we do not react to facts themselves, but to the meaning we attach to them. That meaning is filtered through our own fears, experiences...
28 Mar 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman
In relationships, it is rarely the absence of love that breaks the bond, but the way we handle what we feel when things become difficult. If we previously explored attachment patterns and how they shape closeness between two people, it is now time to...
24 Mar 2026 2 minute read 0 comments luciman
Sometimes true relational maturity begins exactly where words end. If in the previous article we explored the courage to express ourselves authentically, today we go further: what do we do when the other person cannot — or does not know how to — clea...
