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19 Sep 2026 2 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.01
Sometimes relationships do not grow cold because love has disappeared but because of the pace at which we end up living. After learning to respect our own boundaries and communicate them honestly, another challenge appears: how do we stay connected w...
18 Sep 2026 2 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.03
Sometimes the most important changes in a relationship do not happen during grand declarations of love but during seemingly uncomfortable conversations in which two people learn to be honest without hurting each other. That is exactly why it is worth...
18 Sep 2026 2 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.03
There are moments in every relationship when tension builds up over seemingly insignificant things, and what felt unimportant yesterday suddenly turns into an unexpectedly heated argument. It is precisely in those moments that the way we choose to tr...
17 Sep 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.03
The need for constant validation, which I wrote about last time, almost always has a root in the past. And it is the past, specifically the mental scenarios built from old experiences, that I want to explore today: how these scenarios run in the ba...
16 Sep 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.04
The illusion of complete knowledge, which I wrote about last time, sometimes pushes us to seek confirmation that what we believe about ourselves is true. There is a specific form of that search that appears frequently in relationships: the need f...
16 Sep 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.03
The art of the genuine apology, which I wrote about last time, requires recognising that you have wronged a real person, not the image you have built of them. That distinction, between the real person and their image in your mind, brings me to toda...
15 Sep 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.03
Daily tiredness, which I wrote about last time, reduces our capacity to be present and makes us more prone to mistakes with our partner, to reactions we regret, to moments when we were not who we wanted to be. Then comes the apology. But not every...
14 Sep 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.04
Minor resentments, which I wrote about last time, often accumulate precisely in the moments we are too tired to address them properly. And it is exactly fatigue, the everyday, normal kind rarely recognised as a genuine issue, that I want to explore...
14 Sep 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.05
The way attachment changes over time, which I wrote about last time, also happens through what we leave unaddressed. And there is one category of things we systematically accumulate in any long-term relationship, not the big conflicts that are visi...
13 Sep 2026 3 minute read 0 comments luciman $0.02
The dynamic of asymmetric caretaking, which I wrote about last time, appears especially when attachment in the relationship is unbalanced. And it is attachment itself, the way we bond with the other and how that bond changes over time, that is toda...
