This post is intended for those who are still SINGLE. I would just like to share parts and parcel of that point in my life long time back when I was kinda pressured by my family, friends, relatives and almost everyone whom I encountered who would asked me a very obvious question which they knew the answer for themselves. I was not sure if they're really concerned about me or they just wanted to slap right in front to my face that I WILL BE BOUND TO SINGLE life forever.
argh!!...single and no destination at all..ouch!
My image header was taken during the wedding of my friend, it was also a time when I was looking for meaning in my life.. She asked me if I would like to be one of her bridesmaids, of course, how could I declined when it was her big day, so I said yes. Later that night, we had a get-together with our other friends and had a slept over to their place instead.
So we were having chit-chat and it was Q&A portion. Like playing a truth or dare game and I was on the hot seat.
"What about you Pat, when are you getting married?"
"No plans for now!" I winked.
But do you even have a boyfriend?" and everyone was laughing and I just laughed with them.
Afterwards, they were sharing things basically about married life, being in a relationship and I was kinda out of place because for CRYING OUT LOUD I COULD NOT RELATE! tsk tsk...they told me I must start thinking about my future, darn, I was only 29 at that time woots! age would always be just a number for me.
I have been invited to so many weddings before and I would just be the supporting bridesmaid thus it came to a point where I don't want to attend any more wedding invitations especially to my friends because the same question being asked afterwards, duh!
Somehow when you grew up in a society where marriage is like the end goal for everyone and here you are almost on your last trip (meaning age where you are supposed to get married and have babies) people would always tell you to settle down but I would say ENJOY SINGLE LIFE TO THE HILT
"Hey, you are not getting any younger you know, you better start planning for your wedding, blah blah blah!"
But do you even have a boyfriend?" and everyone was laughing and I just laughed with them.
Afterwards, they were sharing things basically about married life, being in a relationship and I was kinda out of place because for CRYING OUT LOUD I COULD NOT RELATE! tsk tsk...they told me I must start thinking about my future, darn, I was only 29 at that time woots! age would always be just a number for me.
I have been invited to so many weddings before and I would just be the supporting bridesmaid thus it came to a point where I don't want to attend any more wedding invitations especially to my friends because the same question being asked afterwards, duh!
Somehow when you grew up in a society where marriage is like the end goal for everyone and here you are almost on your last trip (meaning age where you are supposed to get married and have babies) people would always tell you to settle down but I would say ENJOY SINGLE LIFE TO THE HILT
Explore the world first, make most of your time with yourself and DO NOT BE PRESSURED even if everyone in your household is tying the knot because MARRIAGE IS NOT A COMPETITION for Christ sake!
have you been in a situation where you were also pressured to get married? What did you do? How did you deal with it?
images used are mine.
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