Grant me serenity

to accept the things I can't change,

the courage to change the ones I can

and the wisdom to recognize the difference.

-San Francesco-

This article starts with a big news... the image you see was created by me and, having a little more time, it will always be like this in the future; obviously every time I have some nice photos, I will also insert those, word of wolf cub! ✌️

Today I wanted to talk a little about acceptance, but also about improvement; accepting each other is known, it is an important step, but what we must understand is: what exactly to accept?

Sometimes we can run into a paradox, at least apparently, since personal growth has in its essence a continuous improvement, but if we think about it, this could hide difficulties in coming to terms with the mirror and accepting ourselves.

I believe that acceptance and improvement can coexist and indeed get married in a perfect marriage!

Accepting yourself is a much deeper concept than simply convincing yourself that: "I'm fine like this", it is something that certainly brings philosophy into play.

The philosopher plumbs the depths of thought knowing that, at a certain point, he will not be able to go beyond that abyss; once the limits have been identified, one can acknowledge that within them there is freedom while outside there is nothing... in a nutshell, by following these paths, the philosopher accepts the limits of his own thought.

However, the concept of limit is not only important in philosophy; by accepting who we are, what we can control and everything that is beyond our control, we can discover the limits within which we live and, once this field has been outlined, go further; this is when personal growth and acceptance become powerful allies.

Wandering around the "big net" the possibilities of distorting the concept of "acceptance" are endless.

We can come across the influencer of the moment, who convinces us that our difficulties in relating to others are not the result of our wrong behavior and, therefore, "it is not our problem but the world's", following this vision, there will be no need to improve wrong behaviors, rocking yourself in solitude.

We will meet the "gamer" who spends whole days in front of video games making us feel less guilty for those four, five or six hours we spend stoned in front of the playstation.

We will read the words of some pseudo-opinionist who expresses ideas full of prejudices (or to put it in my way bullshit a go go) but which are similar to ours and, therefore, we will feel at ease in the thought of having strong convictions even if our sources are the "cazzaro" of the moment rather than the study and deepening and, even worse, we will feel entitled never to have to re-discuss our ideas.

By following wrong examples, such as the ones we have just seen, self-acceptance becomes eternal immobility!

Improvement and change should never be seen as a lack of acceptance of who we are, on the contrary, becoming aware of oneself means recognizing one's limits which are nothing more than the boundaries within which to act to improve ourselves.

Life is not static, but in motion and requires continuous adaptations, corrections, improvements... always starting from who we are, therefore acceptance of where we are at the moment, to then progress and move forward.

None of us are born prepared for life, therefore, improving ourselves must be seen as improving the possibilities of adaptation without having to deny one's ego.

Think about it, relationships require adjustment.

In work we never have all the necessary skills initially therefore, we learn and improve... therefore the work requires adaptation.

Most importantly, happiness; we are not happy simply because you are alive, we are happy when our characteristics meet and interlock with those of the environment, made up of people who are perhaps even very different from us, who are constantly changing, growing, improving or maybe why not, getting worse. .. happiness therefore requires adaptation.

In conclusion, I believe that in order to evolve it is essential to use our ingenuity, to understand how far we can go having the good sense to respect who we are; only in this way will we be able to build a life designed on our person.

"Rethinking" is also fundamental, having the courage to stop and reflect on what was said and done during the day, on our behaviour, on what we said in various conversations, on the results of our actions.

I spoke of philosophy and, I believe, that the act of reflecting is a philosophical act par excellence since it allows us to observe the life we have lived in a detached way.

Detachment is fundamental because there is no understanding of things while we are living them, during life we make mistakes that we don't want to make, we say things that we don't want to say, all things however we only realize after "thinking back" about ourselves .

Therefore giving ourselves time to evaluate ourselves is the first act of real personal growth we can do.

Thinking back to ourselves we will be able to know what the limits of our existence are and we will be able to design a world tailored to who we are, we will be able to adapt to what is happening around us without however letting ourselves be transformed in a unique way.

Thinking back to what we do every day, we will finally be able to recognize ourselves for who we are and learn to live our life in the role that our design will place before us.

Only after all this will we finally be able to accept ourselves, sometimes surrendering to our limits; doing it however, according to this path followed, in a virtuous way and giving us, within the limits discovered, the happiness that everyone tries to conquer every day.

Well after these philosophical reflections of mine I greet you... you understood that when I went to high school I loved philosophy, right? 😁

Feel free to express your thoughts and opinions below.

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