A relationship is a tricky path sometimes and one that requires you to be careful and do all you have to do. I understand that sometimes doing your best doesn’t guarantee happiness in a relationship but then, but you should always keep in mind that a lot of people want to see your relationship fail for whatever reason that is best known to them.

As humans, we are sometimes selfish and when we have experienced a particular setback, we look for others to go through it with us so we can feel good about ourselves and not feel all alone. It is crazy how we have conditioned our minds to see others fail in the same area we failed because we feel others might mock us and that would be too hard for some to bear. So, it is indeed true what they say that misery loves company.

Because your relationship failed doesn’t mean you have to say things or look for ways to make others fail. You can share your experience with others to keep them informed but it's not nice to create panic to dissuade them because the truth is, others might thrive where you failed just as your experience might be positive where others have the negative but we shouldn't stop trying. Wanting others to fail because we failed is not nice...that is pure wickedness with total disregard for consequences. We should learn from how others achieved their success if we are to become successful in the areas that we have been failing too.

Not everyone is happy with your relationship and you need to know this, which is why you have to be careful about those you tell your matters to and those whose advice you take. Before you take relationship advice from someone, watch if they have been successful in that area first or better still, learn why they failed. A lot of people know the theory and would give you words that even they cannot keep to. Some will speak so well and you will think all is going well with their relationship, but no, they are suffering and crying inside; they go to bed every night and how can you trust the advice they will give you when they are in their down moment? Be careful... because they might be emotional with their advice.

I read how some people were discussing how blockchain relationship fails and how it is not real. Because yours failed, because yours wasn’t real, because you were rejected, and because you were used and dumped doesn’t mean everyone else will be. Realities are different because efforts are different.

Some people know what it means to be in a relationship and not just to change their status. Some people have a genuine reason to be with someone and it doesn’t have to be with your motive, so stop suspecting everyone to be like who you are.

We need to let people be and let them enjoy their relationship. Just because you are not happy with yours doesn’t mean the world has to end. It doesn’t mean you have to go about ruining others because you feel you can’t have it too. A lot of people would rather scatter what you have because they can’t have it and they would go to any length to deprive you of what you have. This is why you need to be careful about the kind of friends you keep around you.

I saw something on someone’s WhatsApp status many years ago and my heart sank, my jaw dropped and read in disbelief. Some lines should never be crossed no matter what. Whatever feeling you have should be buried because some things don’t make sense and should be avoided because a lot would be made out of the whole scenario even if your intentions were true.

There was this lady who was the chief bride’s maid to her friend on her wedding day in 2015, and 4 years after; in 2019, that chief bride’s maid (who is the best friend of the lady that got married) got married to the same man her friend married in 2015; the same person she did the chief bride’s maid honour for. Even if she wasn’t the one that orchestrated their break up, some lines shouldn't be crossed and forever that friendship has been ruined.

...to be continued...

Thank you for your time.

My pen doesn't bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.

Still me,

My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.

Olawalium; (Love's chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor's order.