In your relationship, whether you are single or you are married, be caring and considerate. That is the new romance.

Being caring means you would go through any length to show how much that person means to you and not just to prove a statement to the world or to rub it in their faces, but to show a deep sense of care because you don't want to be without that person...but these days, we are more concerned about what our friends or family thinks or say than what our heart truly wants. We would rather let them see us as strong than do what's best for us and like I would always say, it MUST be mutual.

Timing is also very important in a romantic relationship and this is also a bit related to being considerate. Once you are considerate, you wouldn't do what you don't want to be done to you.

Speaking of timing, how do you expect romance gestures from someone who is dealing with life crisis? It shows selfishness and naivety.

What do you desire in a relationship? It is okay to have expectations in a relationship. Why won't you? Your expectations motivate you to give your best. Always communicate your expectations to your partner and that is how to build a romantic relationship. If I don't know how to love you, how can I do it better? Yes, there is a place for observation - where you don't even have to be told and also, there is a place for communication.

Learn to love your partner in a language they understand and not in the language you understand. Imagine me loving you how you want and you loving me in a way I want, then there would be room for discussion, adjustments and considerations where you can both reach a common ground.

Most people go into a relationship with their heart alone rather than with their head and their heart. Going with both helps you understand if you are alone in that 'relationship' which would help you know when to leave and when to keep fighting.

There is no romance without finance. Be ready to give as much as you are expecting too. That is vital in a relationship. Of course, there is variance in giving as expected but give with your heart regardless.

You can give without necessarily being in a romantic relationship with such a person but you can't love someone deeply without giving. Don't just be at the receiving end of all the giving, you build a romance with finance and there is no excuse for not being able to give. Giving is not limited to material things but you can give your attention, time, advise and so on.

Most people in a relationship don't have a problem really, but they just need someone to listen to them.

To round this up, let me just list out the qualities of a romantic relationship and it is applicable to both single and the married:

1. Loyalty - This talks about being committed to each other.
2. Trust - Trusting your partner based on the trust you have both built over time.
3. Intimacy - Deep emotional connection that has nothing to do with sex.
4. Respect - Respect them as a person, even with your choice of words and also their privacy. Privacy in the sense of them wanting to be alone at some moment and it has nothing to do with the fact that they don't trust you or care enough to tell you. They will still tell you but learn to respect your partner to come around and talk about it later, not necessarily at the time you want them to.
5. Mutual Understanding - Can two walk together except they agree? You can't agree on things when you don't learn to build understanding via communication. Mutual communication breeds or starts a romantic relationship.

I have more to say but they can't be exhausted all at once, so let me draw the curtains here but I would say this:
A relationship can start anywhere. I have seen people fall in love on the street, in a mall, in Church, in the library, on a plane, in a bus/taxi...anywhere. In fact, I have seen people fall in love in the zoo and the hippopotamus is my witness on that last one.

Thank you for your time.

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Still me,

My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.

Olawalium; (Love's chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor's order.