when it feels like everything in your life is collapsing or you are spinning your wheels but going nowhere it's easy to end up giving up and just wallow. i thought about this today because I feel like I'm going through another episode of bad feelings, not that bad but still.
i went to the gym today and I did some workout but I didn't feel I did enough of anything, I feel I give minimal effort. I think I know the answer, (Bonus #tip most people don't need life coaches we already know the answer, we need a coach because we feel we need someone else to push us onwards.)
analysis by paralysis.
now I understand why they say shower thoughts.
only in the shower am I alone without distraction. so I think a lot, especially in the morning, and then I think a lot of all the shit I said I want to do, and then I start to feel bad and then I feel I can't move much or do anything and then at the end of the day somethings I realize I haven't done anything, days turn to weeks, years, etc. this is how a rut starts. we start feeling overwhelmed by shit we want to get done, but then it piles up and you feel like its too much and then you give up.
You are your worst critic.
Most of us don't take kindly to people criticizing us, but hen comes to find out we berate ourselves way worse than our worse enemy. I can't remember where I saw this but it's something like i don't need you to criticize me, because I already do it way better ( or worse than) than you can say to me. or I don't need you to tell me how shit I am because I already know how shit I feel> most of the time we are so harsh on ourselves because we feel that this person screwed our life up. " like you are so lazy, why can't you do anything, everybody else is doing great, You don't have anything, etc." this is constantly, can't imaging having someone this negative follow me around all day, but he's been here for a decade now. what gives.
Most regret in life comes from hindsight.
if you ask most people in life what are their biggest regret, they say I wish I did this hit earlier, when they start to feel like they make a step in the right direction, they wish they could go back and tell their younger selves, do this earlier, etc. like I feel like it had the option to get millions of dollars or start over from high school with what I know now I would choose the latter. Hindsight is 20/20. there are so many videos on what would you tell your younger self, but are we putting too much pressure on your younger self to know all this stuff. it's like I am beating up teenage me for not doing life better. "bro he's a teenager, he did not know any better." he probably did the best he could" as people. I would not go outside and berate a 15-year-old for not taking shit seriously but yet most of us do it to ourselves.
learn to forgive your younger self.
all I got to say is try to forgive yourself because you have to live with him forever.
How to get yourself out of a rut.
well, so far the best way to dig yourself out of a rut is to start by getting small wins. I found that if I feel like I am overwhelmed if I want to not feel like I can't accomplish anything I'll try to get a small win. maybe it doing the easier task first.
