I asked a friend in her 50s, heading towards 60, what changes she feels in herself. She told me the following:

1️⃣ After loving my parents, siblings, spouse, children, and friends, I have now started loving myself.
2️⃣ I have realized that I am not “Atlas.” The world does not rest on my shoulders.
3️⃣ I have stopped bargaining over the price of vegetables and fruits. A few extra cents won’t break me, but they might help a poor vendor pay for his daughter’s tuition.
4️⃣ I leave a generous tip for my waitress. Those extra dollars might bring a smile to her face. She works much harder to survive than I do.
5️⃣ I have stopped telling the elderly that they have already shared that story many times. Their stories take them down memory lane and help them relive their past.
6️⃣ I have learned not to correct people, even when I know they are wrong. Making everyone perfect is not my responsibility. Peace is more valuable than perfection.
7️⃣ I give compliments freely and generously. Compliments boost the mood, not only for the receiver but also for me. And a little tip: if you receive a compliment, never, EVER dismiss it—just say, “Thank you.”
8️⃣ I have learned not to stress over a wrinkle or a stain on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.
9️⃣ I walk away from people who don’t appreciate me. They may not know my worth, but I do.
🔟 I stay calm when someone plays dirty to get ahead in the rat race. I am not a snitch, nor am I in any race.
1️⃣1️⃣ I am learning not to be ashamed of my emotions. My emotions make me human.
1️⃣2️⃣ I have learned that it’s better to swallow my pride than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me distant, but relationships will ensure I’m never alone.
1️⃣3️⃣ I have learned to live every day as if it’s my last. Because one day, it might be.
1️⃣4️⃣ I do what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy anytime—just choose to be!

via Friends of National and Kapodistrian University

我问了一位50多岁、快60岁的朋友，她在自己身上感受到哪些变化？她告诉了我以下几点：

1️⃣ 在爱过父母、兄弟姐妹、伴侣、孩子和朋友之后，我现在开始爱自己。
2️⃣ 我意识到，我不是“擎天神阿特拉斯”，世界并不需要靠在我肩上。
3️⃣ 我不再为蔬菜和水果的价格讨价还价。多花几分钱不会让我破产，但可能会帮助贫困的小贩支付女儿的学费。
4️⃣ 我给服务员留下了丰厚的小费。这些额外的钱或许能让她脸上露出笑容。她比我更努力地生存。
5️⃣ 我不再告诉老人们他们已经讲过这个故事很多遍了。讲述这些故事可以让他们回忆过去，再次体验那些美好的时光。
6️⃣ 我学会了不去纠正别人，即使我知道他们是错的。让所有人都完美不是我的责任，和平比完美更珍贵。
7️⃣ 我愿意慷慨地称赞别人。赞美不仅能提升对方的心情，也能让我自己感到快乐。小建议：如果有人夸奖你，永远不要否认，微笑着说一句“谢谢”。
8️⃣ 我不再在意衣服上的皱褶或污点。个性比外表更重要。
9️⃣ 我远离不珍惜我的人。他们或许不懂我的价值，但我自己懂。
🔟 当有人耍手段想在竞争中胜过我时，我保持冷静。我不是告密者，也不参与任何比赛。
1️⃣1️⃣ 我正在学会不为自己的情绪感到羞耻。正是这些情绪让我成为一个真正的人。
1️⃣2️⃣ 我明白了，与其破坏一段关系，不如放下自尊。自尊让我疏远别人，而关系让我永不孤单。
1️⃣3️⃣ 我学会了把每一天都当成最后一天来过。因为也许有一天，它真的就是最后一天。
1️⃣4️⃣ 我做让我快乐的事情。我为自己的幸福负责，我欠自己这份幸福。幸福是一种选择，你随时都可以选择快乐！

via 国家与卡波季斯特里安大学的朋友