Honouring the memory of recently departed uncle Venkatesh

Last two Sundays, I spent my time creating a card in memory of my uncle, my sister-in-law’s dad who passed away suddenly in his sleep unexpectedly without warning.

Although I am not close to him, I am acquainted enough with my Venkatesh uncle, to feel shock and pain, and get tears acknowledging the reality of his demise. So, I can’t imagine the grief his close, loved ones would feel.

A thought on how difficult this would be for uncle’s life companion

I felt dearly for my sis-in-law on how terrible she would feel at first, because she is closest to me in their family but then I thought of how this would be a very difficult time for aunty, the wife and life companion of Venkatesh uncle.

I can’t imagine how vacant she must be feeling waking up daily and not having her man who she’s shared decades of her life with, not be there with her any more.

What remains for aunty is just memories…

 Embracing the pain of such a heavy loss by feeling it and accepting the reality

No one can ever see him again in this world and the heart pains and grieves, the loss is heavy…

We close our eyes and pray for peace, and strength for his loved ones to carry on…

 Expressing the lamentation of the heart through songs

Two songs come to my mind here … the immediate one was Eric Clapton’s song ‘Tears in Heaven’ and now as I thought about the void aunty will be feeling the song “My Love” from Westlife played in my mind.

Tears in Heaven Lyrics …

Would you know my name? 
If I saw you in heaven
Would it be the same? 
If I saw you in heaven

I must be strong 
And carry on 
’Cause I know I don’t belong Here in heaven

And then as we pray for uncle’s soul to rest in peace…

‘Beyond the door 
There’s peace, I’m sure 
And I know there’ll be no more .
Tears in heaven’

As time passes by in the near years, I am sure the pain and grief will hit one very intensely at times as we think about our departed loved one and realise that the person is not there in the world any longer…

Time can bring you down 
Time can bend your knees
Time can break your heart 
Have you begging please 
Begging please

And in this difficult time we feel weak and the person who lends us support during such times is no longer there…

Would you hold my hand?
If I saw you in heaven 
Would you help me stand? 
If I saw you in heaven

However, eventually as we deal with the reality, we grow accustomed to live life without that departed loved one…

I’ll find my way 
Through night and day 
’Cause I know I just can’t stay 
Here in heaven

Well… tears for uncle Venkatesh were shed on earth by his dear ones, even if he is happy in heaven, free from tears and again I imagine these lines echo in the mind of his loved ones..

‘I must be strong 
And carry on 
’Cause I know I don’t belong Here in heaven’

 My created Tribute card honouring the memory of Venkatesh uncle

Well… before I go to the second song that comes to my mind… I will talk about the card I made for uncleji.

Here, I tried to bring out Venkatesh uncle’s essence and this was what I wrote from what I understood about him…

Eager and enthusiastic person with a charm of innocence,
Never hesitant or restricted in making cordial conversations…

Always open to extend his warmth with his friendly vibes towards everyone.

Venkatesh uncle’s beaming frank nature is something special we will always remember him for…

His warm welcoming spirit has shown us that it’s possible to value another’s company no matter our differences…

His presence always added a fun flavour to the atmosphere…

His memory is something we will always treasure…

Here is the end product…

I had this background taken from pixabay, free to use photos and it was of heaven and on that background I created card titled -

Honouring the association with a cordial soul that’s departed — Venkatesh Uncle

Background of my card that I had taken from pixabay free to use photo

 Uncle resides within our hearts and we will honour his memory and celebrate his legacy

Now when uncle left the world, he actually did not say bye bye even to aunty because he died in his sleep and she found him lying cold in the morning.

He never told goodbye to anyone…
So, this is how his wife must be feeling…

Lyrics of ‘My Love’ from West life

An empty street, an empty house
A hole inside my heart
I’m all alone, the rooms are getting smaller
I wonder how, I wonder why 
I wonder where they are 
The days we had, the songs we sang together 
Oh, yeah

And oh, my love
I’m holding on forever 
Reaching for the love that seems so far

So, I say a little prayer
And hope my dreams will take me there 
Where the skies are blue
To see you once again, my love 
Overseas, from coast to coast 
To find a place I love the most 
Where the fields are green 
To see you once again
My love

Well… surely uncle Venkatesh will always remain in his loved ones hearts,
They will remember him and think of him, 
And recall all the wonderful times they shared with him
And feel happy

Ultimately, it matters that he was loved and will always be loved by people he was associated with…

Bye, bye Uncle Venkatesh… farewell… goodbye…