My back problems "have finally come to an end", because today I got the results from the magnetic resonance imaging that I went through on Monday, and although my spine and back is not perfect, we're not talking about a herniated disc though, according to these results. It's "just" a scoliosis, which seems to be pretty popular among millennials, and an obvious straightening of my lumbar supposedly curbed spine.

I won't die from that, but I will for sure be more careful about how I treat my back and definitely do something about these problems, to at least stop them from getting worse. I am pretty optimistic lately and I believe that with the help of some proper exercises I will be better and better and send that back and leg pain to a never ending tomorrow. Will see what the doc will advise me to do when I get to her with the results, because in my country when you get a magnetic resonance imaging check up you don't have a doc explaining you shit about your condition. They just give you the documents and the conclusion of the check up and that's it. Who's next?

We'll see about that, in details, tomorrow. Now, the title of this post is not actually about these medical check ups that I mentioned about in the above paragraphs but more about a mental trick that would help some of us in getting rid of some two or three tons of useless stress. Yes, stress, at some point can be the kick in the ass that will push you forward, but if you get that kick in the balls, it will definitely push you backwards, and who doesn't know at least one person that constantly gets kicked in that sensitive point.

I have a neighbor, a bit younger than me, that always, and I mean always, is in some kind of conflict with someone or something and needs to share about that. It's like he's a magnet to such persons and situations and with every new kick he stubbornly burns out his brain with useless judgmental thinking, analysis of mostly nonsense situations, while feeling the need to share them with others. They all seem to do that. It's hard to hold that much contrast inside you, I guess, so you have to share it with others as well, hence they can share a bit of their endless empathy with you, to make that pain go away.

Sometimes when I see this guy I feel like saying Hi and then suddenly offer him that "see you" line that kind of indirectly tells someone that you're not in the mood for a talk and you definitely avoid that person. I've done it, and I don't regret it for being straight forward and a bit rude. That's how I am, and that's probably the reason why I don't have too many friends, and don't wear the friendly guy tag on my shirt. Today was different though. God cleared my mind!

I felt like approaching this guy from a productive angle and I told him, something that I should tell myself as well quite often: "I said, hey man, I feel for you and your struggle, but have you thought that all of these problems that you wine about, at me now, might just be real only in your mind? Why don't you invite them to come back tomorrow and see if they do? I guarantee that 99% out of them won't because they're not real." We all have, of course, real problems and things that are stressing us out, but I have the feeling that most of our problems/stressful thinking and daily neuronal burnouts are not real actually, they're not matter created.

They're mostly interpretations, false perceptions, virtual drama and endless monologues that would never ever be transmuted into constructive talking, action taking or solving real problems. It's because they're not based on real problems. It's too much about he/she doesn't understand me, or what did he/she want to say by that, and so on. That type of important stuff similar to the last year's snow. Who remembers "exactly" how the last year's snow felt like? Nobody. Same thing with these energy eating worms. They're gonna melt ultimately, but once we focus too much on them, we might melt our brains as well on the way.

Being able, although it's not an easy task at all, to simply cut the cords with such rumination and invite these mind crows to come back tomorrow for a proper meal will give us space. Space that can be filled with some productive shit, some good ideas or, if nothing of this sort comes out, at least a good few hours of fun or laugh. Free of charge fun, like the one we had when we were children and we didn't need play stations to hang around and release some serotonin into our brains. Human minds are immense play grounds and luckily each and one of us is the guardian and host, that has the ability to invite, but at the same time kick out, uninvited players from our play ground.

It's not that hard. It needs a bit of practice of course, and it probably won't work right from the first day, but inviting such daily stress to come back tomorrow, for a check up will actually work. 99% of it won't come back because it's just like haze in the morning, it evaporates easily. It's that simple...

Will this strategy work for this neighbor of mine in solving his daily inner and outer conflict? I don't know, but I surely know that I am writing this technique in my subconscious mind and will send as many uninvited mental crows to come back tomorrow, as I can. I do have as well such parasites, as I am no ZEN master, nor a psychology expert mastering my body's software. A human calm mind, similar to a mountain lake's water surface, might be just a fantasy, but at least we should not blow too much wind on the surface of that lake to make the waters even worse. Taming the waves is the least that we can do, and it's probably easier than we can imagine.

Thanks for attention,
Adrian