How to set Boundaries with People ? (Part - 1)

By Aditya Madhok | Daily Random Posts | 8 Oct 2022

Recently, I had come to the video on YouTube about setting Boundaries. So, here are all the points which I had learnt from the video : -

1- The weaker your personal boundaries with your parents, children or neighbours are, the more people will violate them. They find the reason to disturb your work flow, so that you will not succeed in your professional career. To renew these from these people, you have to remove such type of people from your work flow. Just say No early, so that another person will also know, what are your intensions of sharing your personal matters. In most cases, don't share your personal matters to public.

2- The weaker we become while resting or taking break from our relationships boundaries, we can become easily angry when some third person violates them.

3- Don't defend or close yourselves so much with other person with whom you are in relationship. Be always open of all matters, so that person might know and try to solve it. But also don't ask that person if you had particularly had done something wrong with their life in past. Think about it and learn a lesson from it.

4- Don't try to become a people pleaser in your relationships meaning gossiping about another to another third person. If you did this, you are surely unmatured.

5- Try not to bring your whole group and attack the single one after lying for a decade and not telling them your whole. Don't even try this, this is the biggest red flag and such a relationship ends there at that point and cannot be reworked.

6- Try to give space to both partner. Don't get into their personal space with the intension that you want to destroy the relationship.

7- If you do anger, then it is usually a sign that you had weaker boundary with yourself. So, first try to improve yourself both physically and mentally, before entering any relationship.

8- If you want to do your work more often, don't tell other person more often 'Yes', instead tell them 'No'. If you are constantly saying Yes to every thing, you will end your life, by not doing your work. Your work is main priority.

9- Don't let someone use you in any condition for their profit or work. Find this red flag early will save your relationship with yourself. If it's little late, try pricing self-love. This will take time, but will eventually get back to your original definition of love.

10- Don't try to sabotage yourself in any relationship. Here is the point, if you try being nicer to any one for a longer point, other person will not get your point, and will leave you with nothing. Small fights are necessary.

11- Love yourself first, then love other. If you don't love yourself, how can you love someone other.

12- Don't Whisper any negative thoughts front and back about to your partner.

13- Adjust any circumstances based on your intuition and keeping your boundaries maintained with yourself and other, so they don't need to be changed over several time gaps.

14- Cheers up other person in their success and failure both to only themselves. Don't spread the news.

15- Take Responsibilities of the relationships, means what the other person is wanting from the relationship and also you.

16- Hold up their Hands, when they are in their dark. If you don't hold, they will also not hold, when you will be in your dark region.

17- Keep this word permanent in your brain : - KARMA. It is the ultimate boss of yours and their actions. It means, you get what seeds you had placed in your garden.

18- Don't overuse your Attitude in the relationship. Talk nicely to each other.

19- Don't understand the book by it's cover. First know the reason why the other person is behaving like this in an empathically manner, means sitting together and giving each other space and time to explain their opinions. If you try to become dominant, other person can't communicate with you. They will feel harder to communicate.

20- Don't try to compare another person to other person. Another person will simply refuse you, if you did this childish things.

21- Don't try to dictate one's life. They will then find very hard to talk to you.

22- Don't try to explain your boundary as a anger of yourself or some other person as a reference, instead try to explain this as an emotion that you yourself don't want to feel vulnerable of.

23- Surround yourself with people who cares for you, don't say negative things about you.

24- Last but not least, if all above strategies are not going to work, no matter how many times you had tried, simply walk away, no saying.

Hope this helps for many people.

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