Going through the pain... Emotions are like water. How are you going to cross them without getting wet? Going through pain is not about not jumping into the pool to avoid getting wet. It's throwing yourself in and trying to survive the tide. And what a reason Robe... "The tide is going to rise... and it's going to take everything away!!..." I once subscribed to this phrase and for a reason it was... In the end everything appears so simple and plain as it really is. The waters soak us whether we want to or not. What therapists mean is literally that... you have to jump into the pool and see that the pain is there, feel it and live it to solve it. Don't look at it from the outside as if it were something foreign to you. Who do you think put it in your face? No one, apart from you and the people you let into you, can show you that... Which is not yours of course. They will have theirs like everyone else. That's yours! If you eliminate the person who gives you the key to heal, how do you intend to heal? Looking at someone who doesn't show you anything? Another reel I read said something like "you can't overcome pain if you don't immerse yourself in it...

But you also can't force your nervous system to process pain that's too intense for it..."

That's another... There are people who see pain as normal and demand that you live it... if you can't now, nothing happens!! But yes...be clear that the pain is not going to go anywhere without you experiencing it and that does not mean getting rid of the pain...that is managing it internally to understand that the pain you have is not you have caused it. It comes there with you through experiences and there it will be entrenched until instead of throwing anyone away from you for showing you the inside of your backpack, you are grateful for it, you digest it calmly and you give three farts for that "little nonsense that you were carrying for no reason" and Even at a given moment you share it with the one who from the heart has taught you to see and ask for more, knowing that it is good for you and that there is no problem with opening yourself up and being vulnerable to others. others. Do you think everyone else has won the lottery???

Of course another thing is the ways... Ways of relating. Ways to express ourselves. Ways of being, feeling and loving. Ways that can say that we are in a state of alert and reaction because the ways of others have already damaged us so much that we go out into the street with our armor on just in case... Well, normal. And even more so if in part someone has dedicated themselves to seeing to what limit they have really taken you before to see how far their freedoms can go...Ha!! Maneuvers. Machinations. Control...Everyone carries their backpack and does not always have someone to help them clean it. Great people, who sometimes are very aware, empty your backpack and start rummaging with you to help you lose weight.

Great are those who understand that their beliefs are theirs, or someone has clearly put them out there, and realize that sometimes they can be wrong... And also that asking for forgiveness IS NOT BAD and it also feels super pleasant. It is a relief sometimes to be so analytical that the first thing you do is analyze and think that the error/cause/fault could come from you...and to be so capable of asking for forgiveness without any problem if it is possible that it does. so be it. Some people have yet to understand that forgiveness makes you grow and not the other way around...even though what you acquired from your parents may not be anywhere near that. That's not your problem. 

I continue!! In singular, of course...