Disclaimer: The following contents are quite controversial. The information provided is to stimulate discussion about a very touchy topic. Part of this is from personal experience and I do realize others have valid viewpoints as well.
My mother passed away from Congestive Heart Failure (CHF) a couple a years ago. I was fortunate to have the opportunity to spend 2 months with her before she departed. It was a bittersweet moment for sure. To have the time to converse with her about old time, good times, etc was a gift. That said, the hardship she ensured was tough.
Currently I am helping my brother care for an elderly couple that are 94/98 years old. Incredibly charming but they struggle to form complete thoughts, are pretty much wheel chair bound, and are isolated to their home; just as my mom was before her passing. They faced some illness this morning and as I sat and monitored them, I wondered to myself - what if that were me?
I am a bit of a different animal so my views on this might not align with the majority of people, but if you hear me out - I'd wonder if I'd make sense to you. I see life differently. Yes I am quite young compared to this couple and my mom. I still have my sense, good health, mobility, independence so to speak. However, I strongly believe, if they day arrived, where I were home bound, without the ability to ever leave or have to be cared for 24/7/365 - where is the quality of life?
Being a single guy without children, but a HUGE family, I do realize it's not about me 100%. Yes to deprive the family of my presence at some point much be considered. That said, I'd want the option to pull the plug; metaphorically speaking. WHAT?! I am sure most of you might say, what the hell is your problem? Are you serious? Yes I am quite serious. If I were 94/98, immobile, couldn't make it to the restroom on my own, without assistance, where is the quality of life? If all I did is sat and watched TV or listened barely able to make out what's going on - where is the quality of life?
The emotional and financial that my life would become to others around me - is it worth it? It's not that I don't value life but it's that at that point I would believe I've lived a high quality life and enjoyed it, why would I want to live years in a state like that? I should be given the option to say, I'm done, I am ready to check out, ready to depart to my next journey. Death isn't something we need to fear or dread - no one get's out of here alive; until Elon or Google finds a way.
Does that sound 100% psychotic? I don't think so - I believe I am being rational, open minded, taking all things into consideration. Yes there are some people who still have their sense, mobility, etc at 110. If that is my situation - heck yeah I am staying around and hope that I will continue on to be 120 or 130. However, statistically speaking that's not the norm; given my current diet lol - umm I might be under the norm.
Here in the state of Texas, Death with Dignity (DwD) is not an option; there are 10 states that allow DwD. See the articles below but this is a real battle across the country. Most of the time it refers to terminally ill patience, but I believe it should also be an option for those who might not necessarily are terminally ill but are at a place in life where the quality of the life have deteriorated to the same point as terminally ill. Again do not get my twisted, I strongly believe it's up to that person to choose and not be pressured by family or loved ones to make this kind of decision.
Her Way (Washington Post)
Death by Doctor: Coming Soon to a State Near You (The Bulwark)
Maine Death with Dignity turns to education, outreach after major legislative win (Maine Beacon)
‘Death with Dignity’ in New York remains contentious (Rochester First)
Oregon lawmakers press DEA on barriers to ‘death with dignity’ (Oregon KTVZ)
Woman with terminal cancer fights for Nevada ‘Right to Die’ law (Las Vegas Fox 5)
Maybe you've never thought about this, maybe these articles will shed more light on this situation for you to think about. What would you do? Everyone has a right to their own opinion but at the end of the day, shouldn't we be able to make these kinds of decisions for ourselves? To find more information visit Death with Dignity's website.