Positive vibes in time of COVID

Positive vibes in time of COVID

By Heruvim78 | The longevity gene | 28 Apr 2020

How music changes your behavior at home

Playing music at home brings people physically closer. In an experiment done by neuroscientist Daniel Levitin, after starting to play your music of choice, in your own home, the average distance between household members decreased by 12%, people were 33% more likely to cook together, 85% more likely to invite people over, 15% more likely to laugh together and 18% more likely to say "I love you!". Couples reported 66% more intimacy, 37% more time spent "awake in bed". Music can induce emotions on the long term in the same way as coffee or alcohol, altering neurochemistry, but in a good, non-addictive process.


About meaning - the six fundamental human needs

There are six human needs - fundamental drives within each of us - that compel us forward in our effort to experience a life of meaning. There is no conscious effort, our will to satisfy these primal needs is automatic.

Four of them are so-called primal needs: certainty, uncertainty, significance and connection. The last two are spiritual needs: growth and contribution.

Certainty - everybody want stability about their basic necessities: food, shelter and material resources. When people cannot control their psychical circumstances, they may seek certainty through a state of mind (such as religious faith).

Uncertainty - people need to change their state, to exercise their body and emotions. Therefore they seek variety through a number of means: stimuli, change of scene, physical activity, mood swings, food etc.

Significance - everybody needs to feel special and important in some way. People will seek significance through obtaining recognition from others or from themselves. When people feel insignificant, they make themselves feel significant by getting angry.

Connection - humans need to feel connected with someone or something: a person, an ideal, a value, a habit or a sense of identity. Connection may take form of love, or merely intense engagement, for instance one can feel connected by means of an aggressive interaction.

Growth - everything in the universe is either growing or dying, there is no third alternative. People are not spiritually satisfied unless their capacities are expanding.

Contribution - Just as people cannot survive without others contributing in some way to their welfare (no baby grew up on its own), they cannot be spiritually fulfilled unless they are contributing to others as well.

People find ways to meet these needs in positive, negative or neutral ways, but every person finds a way to meet them in some way. Any activity, action or emotion that fulfill at least three needs at a high level becomes, in effect, an addiction. Likewise, people have positive, negative or neutral addictions. There is always a way to fulfill a need, the skill lies in finding a sustainable way to fulfill it, and in a way that gives us more pleasure than pain.



And finally, one amazing text, written by my favourite writer:


Look again at that dot. That's here. That's home. That's us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every "superstar," every "supreme leader," every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there -- on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.

The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds.

Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness, there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.

The Earth is the only world known so far to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand.

It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we've ever known.


--Carl Sagan, Pale Blue Dot, 1994

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