Roles of Men
Societies usually assign roles to males and females. In most cultures, girls are trained from childhood to help with household responsibilities while boys are involved in tasks outside the home. In the past, men engaged in the activities of providing food and shelter for the family. These roles corresponded with their physical and masculine traits.
As civilization moved towards industrialization, men sought employment to earn salaries for the support of the family. Women's roles continued to be related primarily to the home. Although men continue to conceive of their roles as provider and protector of the home, more women are now have assumed a role that previously was assigned to men. With the increase in divorces, many women are now being forced into the role of provider for the one-parent family.
Some tasks can be done equally well by men and women. Others can be done better by women and vice versa. The smaller bone structure and nimble fingers of a woman give to her an advantage in doing precise activities. However, many household activities, such as cooking and cleaning, can be done as well by the man as the woman.
Men express more interest in scientific subjects and mechanics than women, and thus, usually know more about these areas. Man's greater interest in these areas in the past may have been the result of his requirement to be engaged in them in making a living. The image of man is that he is scientific, mechanical, and sports oriented, and this causes him to learn more about these areas. On the other hand, women express more interest in religion, art, domestic arts, and music. They usually know more about flowers, fabrics, color combinations, precious stones, and household furnishings.
In the past, society assigned to man the role of getting acquainted with and developing the relationship with the woman. The social customs were based on the inherent aggressive nature of the male. Even in the animal world, the male is the aggressor, and the female engages in activities to attract the male during the mating season. It is characteristics in human relations for the female to attract the male as well. Ordinarily, women are more careful in dress and appearance than men. Girls appear to be by nature tidier than boys. This characteristics becomes obvious when the rooms of boys and girls are examined. The woman's care for personal attractiveness and tidiness appeals to the man.

Man's need of Woman
While men need to conquer and achieve, women generally have a desire to be conquered with gentleness and strength. God has made their natures to blend together. The Biblical injunction for the husband to be head of the home and the wife to be subject to her husband is not contrary to nature.
Some feminist groups conclude that for the wife to be submissive to the husband and for her to recognize him as head of the home is to accept an inferior role. Actually, submission by the wife is a fulfillment of her nature in the one-flesh relationship with her husband. She does not experience emotional and psychological fulfillment if she becomes the dominant person in the marriage relationship. She needs to feel her husband's strength in taking care of her, and the husband needs to exert his strength in caring for his wife. These needs are instinctive with deep roots in the emotional structure.
A man is never sure how he should express his urge for mastery in relating to a woman. He is not sure what the woman expects. For the man to initiate an intimate friendship without bartering on the sexual level means taking risks and becoming vulnerable. If he reaches out to the woman and she does not respond, he is rejected and made to feel foolish. The combination of the urge for mastery and the feeling of inferiority may make his actions unpresdictable. The experience of intimate friendship-drawing from each other the strength and encouragement each has to give, other than on the sexual level-is missing from many marriages.
Man needs the helpmate Eve whom God created. Woman becomes the object of his emotion and his companion in marriage and in parenthood. He needs to exert his manly strength in protecting his home. Men work to provide for their families, go to war to protect their daughters and wives, and risk other dangers to defend their loved one. Men need the courage that comes from the loyalty and devotion of wives, and risk other dangers to defend their love ones. Men need the courage that comes from the loyalty devotion of wise and children who depend on them.
Man is incomplete without a wife as a companions with home to share his dreams and aspirations. He too wants to share in her dreams and thoughts. He wants to be respected by her above all other men. He wants to respect her above all other women. He does not want a relationship of manipulations, or domination, unless he is an emotionally disturbed person. He wants a companion of whom he can be proud as she exercises her own unique abilities and contributions in life. He does not desire to use her as a servant in his own pursuit of success but rejoices when he can help her attain her own goals. Man was made for companionship and cannot achieve supreme joy apart from it.
A man needs to feel that he has fulfilled his wife's sexual needs. Man, because of his strong sexual drive, may be depicted as an insensitive "ape" whose only concern is to satisfy his own sensual drives, but this image is inaccurate. The desire to fulfill the needs of the companion is not true of the man who seduces a woman for his own satisfaction only, but it is true of the man who loves his wife. Illicit sexual relations are never fully satisfying. A man needs to give in the sexual relation as well as receive. The woman who believes that it does not matter to her husband whether she responds and experiences joy in their relationship does not understand him. If a man fails in his attempt to fulfill his wife, he experiences a deep sense of failure, his own image of himself as a man suffers, and his control of all other areas of marriage will be hindered. He feels inadequate and becomes defensive.
Numerous writers have observed that nations fall when homes deteriorate. When the loyalty of wives to husbands and the respect of men for women disappear, men have no incentive for exerting their manly strength. Man needs woman for his strength and nature to experience fulfillment.

Christian Moral Standards for Man
Much has been said about the dual standard of morality with regard to men and women. Societies have permitted a man to have affairs with numerous women without great scorn but have required a woman be loyal to one man. Christianity requires that no man and one woman be faithful to each other in the marriage relationship until death parts them. This requirements was not made in earlier parts of the Old Testament in which a man may have had several wives but no wife had several husbands. This pattern was true of other polygamist cultures as well.
The polygamous nature of man may have been the outgrowth of his emotional nature. While the male is designed to respond immediately with strong emotion to the female, her response is more periodic. The dominating nature of the male tends to require loyalty from the female. Among lower animals, several females become the mates of the one male. Since man is of a higher social nature, he is not to be controlled simply by his instinctual drives although they are an essential part of his total being. His higher nature is more completely fulfilled in loyalty to one wife and responsibility to one family. He is to develop intimate understanding and one-flesh relations with only one mate. As a responsible human being, he must join his mate in concern for the well-being of the offsprings feather than leaving their sustenance and training to the woman.
The Christian requirement for the monogamous relation of man and woman is not based upon instinctual drives but upon love, the good of society, and the will of God. Love, the concern for the well-being of others rather than selfish satisfaction of one's own emotional desires, is a basic and controlling Christian virtue. Since man is the highest creation and is made in the image of God, his aggressive nature and instinctual drives are tempered by social and spiritual aspects of his being.

Man's Master
Because of his physical structure and emotional nature, the self-controlled, or uncontrolled, man loses perspective. He may use his strength to abuse his wife. If he allows his sexual impulses to get out of hand, he becomes unfaithful to his companion. His pride can lead to arrogance and make him become undesirable as a companion. His nature to compete and his strong desire to succeed can lead to his becoming unfair and dishonest. His tendency to be independent and self-reliant can cause him to ignore his Creator and neglect his companion. Characteristics which were designed to make life whole and happy can be perverted into destructive forces.
Since man has the strong desire to succeed, defeat may cause him such great frustration and pain that he tries to escape it through drunkenness. Instead of being the head and leader of the home, he may become the tyrannical ruler. Instead of being a responsible father and loving husband, his herd instinct may cause him to return to the animal level of satisfying only physical impulses in whatever way is possible. He may conclude that his perverted actions are expressions of manliness, but actually they are more in character with his animal nature.
Man needs to be controlled by his Creator in order that his inherent characteristics can be expressed in harmony with his true nature and purpose in life. His sexual nature give him drive and ambition as well as love for a companion and desire for children. His pride cause him to care how well he provides for those that are dependent upon him.
If a man's distinctive characteristics are at the disposal of his selfish and lustful nature, they become instrument of Satan. For the man who invites Christ to control his life, his distinctive characteristics add to his own fulfillment and contribute to the well-being of his family. When distinctive characteristics are properly expressed, they benefit the home and society and equip the man for his role as head of the family.
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