The world nowadays has many various dangers wherever you go whatever you do. You and I are sometimes the victims of harmful by ourselves and others, we compare our life to somebody else, we feel powerlessness, we minimize and catastrophize something, and we tell something than the way it is. Unfortunately, these things make us angry. Have you considered that anger is a choice? Many people are confused if anger is a choice or primary emotion when those things happen in their lives. Anger is a secondary emotion that responding to negative primary emotion or stress through aggression. What shall we do to have a positive thought and constructive response that helps us to choose no to be anger?
First, In the environment where I live and also my own life experience has taught me that anger is a choice that would have gone slowly by having a positive thought and choosing a more constructive response. Spencer W. Kimball highlights what James Allen quoted saying: “Man is the master of thought… environment and destiny” (Miracle of forgiveness). I know that’s true. There was a time that I had a negative thought when one soccer team could kick a goal when our taxi drivers give money under daily payment. I was feeling angry when things are not the way they could be. I often disagree with and I would like to stop it. It is very difficult to overcome anger if we don’t seek divine help. The atonement of Jesus Christ enables power to us to overcome it and then we can control our thought. I agree, that it can build a positive thought and constructive response.
Additionally, not only in the environment where I live but also my own life experience has taught me that anger is a choice that would have gone slowly by having a positive thought and choosing a more constructive response. Spencer W. Kimball has quoted this: “Whether you think you can or you can’t you’re right” (Miracle of forgiveness). As Spencer W. Kimball emphasized in this quote then we can whether control our thought or not as well. I agree with him. It has been 4 months ago, I started my enrolment on pathway connect, my wife was feeling nervous while I spoke English stayed by side her in our room, she said: “get out over here, I don’t want to hear your voice”. My wife expects the baby so far that is why sometimes she is weird with me. I answer her saying: Ok, I understand, you don’t like me to continue my pathway connect study; don’t worry I am going to stop it. At that time, I couldn’t control myself; as I was very angry against her; so, I destroyed my smartphone down on the floor. I told myself that my wife did not agree with a decision I have taken to do pathway connect. But that was not the way it was. I was very disappointed with that choice I made. As I am lack self-control then I seek education from above. I love the teaching of David A. Bednar. He said: “As you and I come to understand and employ the enabling power of the Atonement in our personal lives, we will pray and seek for strength to change our circumstances rather than praying for our circumstances to be changed. We will become agents who act rather than objects that are acted upon ("The Atonement and the Journey of Mortality Ensign, April 2012). After my sadness, I plan to listen first to my wife carefully and stop jumping in conversation when she speaks to reduce and stop deceitful. I have to sacrifice in my life. I’ll take a breath when I am stressed and I reach out to my Dear Heavenly Father by prayer to slow down my anger speak softly and seek to enable the power of the atonement of Jesus-Christ for help to respond constructively and work for a solution.
Finally, there are many peoples around the world who think that; it is impossible to have self-control that causes them to fear a better option to overcome the anger. I intend to cover in these thinks is the “fear of better options” (FOBO) that becomes common mentalities that people have today. It is a helpful option for everyone. I read the message from Lynn G. Robbins said “No one makes us mad. Others don’t make us angry. There is no force involved. Becoming angry is a conscious choice, a decision; therefore, we can make the choice not to become angry. We choose!” (“Agency and Anger” General conference in April 1998), I expect that this will have an impact on our choice not to become angry. Brother Robbins's quote is clear that anger is a choice that we can overcome by taking the decision not to become angry. I feel better and happy enough each time I listen to my wife and the others carefully when they speak.
Undoubtedly, I figure out anger is and will always be a choice we make that we can control and overcome through divine power gifts. Wherever we are and whatever we do. As we rely on our life on the atonement of Jesus Christ, we can choose not to be angry and respond to our friends and loved one constructively, listen to them carefully rather jump to their conversation. By helping others to choose not to be angry, we can be blessed through the enabling power of the atonement because we choose to have positive thoughts.