Many times we find ourselves around people who we may wish to have never met or come across. Life becomes difficult when you find toxic people all around you, there is the time when you want to quit and leave for nothing but their negativity, their discontentment with anything good and you may want to go without looking back.
Here are some tips I want to offer you if you find such a person around you:
Set limits — if you find it difficult to cut them off completely Please set limits. Make sure you have boundaries which they can never cross no matter how they try. When Donald Trump became the president of America he chose to solve an age-long problem by Building a wall which is so high to jump over, so tough to break through, and so closed to sneak in.
Recognize their behaviors and distance yourself — One funny question to ask is “does this person deserve my attention” or “Do I even value this person’s opinion” the answer must then show you if they are worthy enough to bother you, if not the best place to put trash in is the trash can. One good thing a toxic fellow is good at is to upset their opponent if you allow them into your head even if you find a way to distance yourself physically, you surely have to do that emotionally too.
Be Positive always — Do well to distinguish from been critical or negative of your own self. Learn to fixate on positivities always, learn to switch your thoughts to solutions or things that you believe keeps you on the track to your goal. Learn that Toxic people do not deserve your mental energy. It sounds absurd but that is the right thing to do.
Forgive and Let go — forgive and let go, according to Lewis B. Smedes “forgiveness is to set a prisoner free only to discover that the prisoner was no other but you”. No one can forgive and forget, it is never right to forgive and forget you may one day remember and pinch yourself hard, but to learn to LET GO is the only way to heal your wounds completely”.
In the end….
Learn to be: at peace with yourself, loyal, consistent, focused, composed, considerate, humble and coachable.
Learn to Identify those who are Potential threats to your growth for if they stick around it may become your doom (A story was told about a man whose pet was a Python and the mammal turned to eat him back).
Learn to find quality in others and celebrate their weaknesses, learn to keep and trusted circle. Never that… small circle ONLY, God-focused, health obligated, protect the family-minded and BUILD THE LEGACY DESTINED.
But trust yourself and your instincts once it tells you you are right and good to go, go for it.