Have you ever been bullied?

By Eybyoung | Eybyoung personal blogs | 30 Jun 2020

We often wonder why some people are too hard, so mean and so bully. Bullying is not new to us, it usually happens when we are still kids. We met bully classmates at school, even now that we are adults we still meet people who are a meanie. They tend to criticize other people below the belt without considering their feelings

We are wondering why they're doing that even if we didn't do anything to them.

What are the factors that causes behavior changes?

Lack of attention- in this case they're lacking attention from their home, maybe their parents are too busy that they can't give time to their kids. It changes the behavior of the person, when nobody is giving you attention you tend to find it on another environment. That's why they try to bully other person to get attention, to get praise that they are strong to bully naive people without thinking they look more pathetic lol.
Peer influence- When parents hardly giving time to their children, this kids will always play with their friends. And friends are always an influencer, as the saying goes "birds with the same feathers flock together" you can never be friends with somebody if it always opposed your actions and opinions, well this applies to young people as their minds isn't that broader like adults do. So if the kid have a bully attitude much likely his friends too will imitate.
Been Bullied- well there are cases like this when somebody is being bullied,they try harder to fight back and protect themselves but cannot able to defeat the one who bullies them, so they try to bully other persons.
Not well treated at home- broken families are rampant nowadays, kids tend to see their parents arguing of fighting. In this case, the kid thoughts that fighting anytime and anywhere is okay. That it's okay to have fight with anybody because their parents do it in front of them. And sometimes they are beaten up by their parents so they'll beat up other people to vent out their anger from their home. Or they are left by their parents, that nobody cares for them so in the contrary they also not care about others feelings.

I personally have experience being bullied when I was a kid, a grade schooler. My classmates beat me and pulls my hair everytime the classes ends, walking going home they'll beat me up for no reason. I was too naive to fight back that time, I will just do my best to find ways how to escape them. I'll just run but I'm a slow runner so they'll caught me. Whenever I was near our home, they'll leave me alone. That's the cycle when I was at grade 1. I never told my parents because they doesn't care too. I was often bullied before because I'm always transferring school. Due to my family always got troubled and changes place to live.

When I reached High School my attitude changes, I became bold and blunt. I became a bully myself, I bully and tease other naive classmates. Some people who knows me being so quite when I was a grade schooler can't believe I'm a bully on high school. They wondered why I have a drastic change of behavior. I don't care about peoples opinions and don't care about their feelings. Nobody can hurt me back then because, I don't care about anything or anyone. Getting in trouble, and I don't give a damn. Even my teachers are having hard time to scold and understand me 😂 because even if they scold me hundred times, I don't care 😂 to think I'm a girl but acts more than my boys classmates do. I'm a product of broken family, and being molested to.

But when I overcome everything, I became more responsible and sensible. I'm not like that anymore now 😁😁

Home is the foundation of our growth, our phsycological factors will be determine by how we are raised.

To the parents who are reading this article please give time to your kids, give them the attention they need. Guide them and teach them good manners so they will be a good citizens when they grow up. Try to listen what they're saying, hear them out. Don't call them bad names when they do mistakes, it makes them believe that's how they really are and act on it. (I also experienced being called in bad names, what a pity and it's not really good 😒). Being bullied and a bully can bring serious damages so we should look out our kids behaviors.

To those people who encounter mean people just let it pass, maybe they're just altering their ego. But if they cross the line then, suggest them to visit a psychiatrist. If it involves physical injuries then you have to do legal actions. Don't be scared, fight back. Nobody deserves to be bullied and nobody is entitled to be a bully.