tribute
salute sister

tribute

By can-amcitizen | can-am citizen | 25 Nov 2021


Hi everyone. I am here today to give a tribute to my sister, it's her birthday today. She passed June 24 of this year. She lived in an apartment my mother had built onto her house. She lived there for the last 30 years because my father had passed away. She kept my mother company and the last several years also looked after her. My mother lives in a long-term care facility because she could not look after herself for the last year two years. I think that was the hardest choice my sister ever had to make; I know she felt guilty about doing it but she could not look after her anymore. My sister had to deal with a mean, mentally abusive husband at times (just found that out after she passed) because he was in physical pain from health issues. It got so bad in the last 4 years that she started drinking just to deal with him and try to look after my mom too. My sister would help anyone and she would always tell you exactly what was on her mind. She also had a lot of health issues. She was overweight, had back problems, had bad circulation in her legs, and she got cancer 2 years ago. She did Kemo and got rid of it. In this last year it came back and that is why she passed.  Growing up we would always be trying to get each other in trouble. I remember around 7 years old; I would pretend to be thrown across the hallway opening as my parents would be walking up the hallway. Then I would say my sister did it, she would get into trouble, usually her punishment would be to do the dishes (I would do this when it was my turn to do them).  But have no fear, she got me back always. The once we were playing hide and seek with friends, she was it. So, I decided to hide up in a tree, I was about 6 feet off the ground. She found me, before I was able to see her, she grabbed my foot and pulled me out of the tree meanwhile never letting go of my foot. I would always hit the ground hard, lol. She was always there for me thought every time I needed her. When she moved away from home is when we got closer as friends, we stopped fighting with each other. I never know she had cancer because if I did, I would have gone back home to see her more. And if I knew her husband was been mean, I would have done something about it. I just want to say to her" I am sorry I did not come home more and I wish you would have told me about the cancer and your husband, I would have been there more and I would not have let your husband treat you that way. I love you and I miss you " I am glad for one thing, at least now you can be free, and not be in any physical or mental pain, I also hope now you finally got rid of your guilt.  I hope you are at peace now. Thank you for being my sister (Nov.25, 1967 to June 24, 2021). It is always good I think to celebrate one's life and always remember them and talked about them to remember them. And one last thing sister, say hi to dad for me and take care of each other until we meet again. Happy thanksgiving to my American friends. May life bring you a smile, laughter and love.

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can-amcitizen
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I am a 51 year man in a 20 year interracial relationship. So I have had my eyes opened for me with humanity. Nothing surprises me anymore.


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writing about my interracial marriage, my A.D.D and life's challenges.

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