Story by Diana
The ritual is a social act that represents by its norms, the symbolic management of the present times. It has a special importance, because the existence of the Romanian peasant is represented by numerous ceremonies and rituals, depending on each stage of life, transmitted from generation to generation.
Although, there are big differences in the level of tradition depending on the local region, they continue to be transmitted throughout Romania. Rituals are essential because they "mark the cycle of life" and are a perfect way to transmit values to infinity, even if they change over time, the essence remains alive.
Through the tradition of burial, man sees death as a separation from the Earth for a positive purpose, through the journey of the soul to a better place, depending on the merit of each earthling. This tradition is closely related to the Christian Orthodox religion. Between the two worlds, admitted by religion, one can communicate with the help of the offerings of the living, called alms, addressed to the deaths of family members.
The funeral ritual is considered a way to kill a person permanently, and to honor his life on Earth. In the past, this ritual required special attention, especially in rural areas where rituals are treated with special care. Specifically, from the moment the being is weakened, without power, the people who are part of his family assume a great responsibility, so as not to make any mistake that could turn the dead into an undead who would return for to kill the people around him, which is related to the belief in mythical powers.
Specific to the rural area in the case of a funeral ritual is the prediction of death, which is a "pre-funeral preparatory behavior." The material, concrete preparation for such an event, in case of any situation, either the rural one or the urban one consists in: gathering some objects, such as coffin, towels, clothes, candles, cross.
Another tradition that is respected, even in urban areas, is mourning, but the period is not limited, because each person holds mourning depending on how long he wants.
Attending such an event in urban areas coincides with that in rural areas in that the purpose is similar, and the steps taken to prepare for the funeral also coincide. Forgiveness, abandonment of the soul, assistance of a priest, detachment of the soul from the earth in favorable conditions, all these aspects are related to the funeral ritual and are correlated with the Orthodox religion and faith in this religion.
Specifically, this tradition is followed in all regions of the country, but depending on each, the rules are more or less fully followed. The extreme difference between urban and rural culture is people's belief in mythical space, legends and superstitions. This creates a barrier between the two types of traditions, because those in rural areas involve following much stricter unwritten rules and passed down from generation to generation, orally.
Panea, Nicolae, "For a grammar of the funeral